to want to give the dummy back???

[chickensaresafehere]

So,dd2 2.10,has no dummy during the day,but because of me & dh having to get up a couple of times a night to find the damn thing & put it back in her mouth,we decided after xmas that we would go cold turkey . . .
Well,it's been hell,she has ditched her daytime nap,as there is no dummy & although she goes off to sleep when we put her to bed,she wakes 3/4 times a night and CANNOT settle herself back,so screams the house down,resulting in dh climbing into bed with her.
I am at my wits end & me & dh have had 'words' this morning where I have said if it carries on much longer I WILL give it her back.
What would you do/have you done.HELP ? ? ? ?

We use something very similar to this attached to dd's comfort blanket. She is 2.7 and still has it at nighttime, during the day when she is with me and asks for it, but they don't encourge her to have it at nursery.

Dd1 gave up her dummy the night before her 4th birthday (just like her mum did ) when the fairies took it away. As she was old enough to rationalise the decision, we had no tears at all.

Give her the bloody dummy back and get some slepp!

My DS has just given his up all on his own, from about 1 year he only used it to sleep. He's 3yrs 9 months.

Weve had lots of upheaval with moving and stress from my ex and I just didn't feel it was fair to take it away from him.

I must admit I was starting to wonder when he would 'decide' but he just handed it to me at bedtime one evening and said I don't want that any more Mummy.

He's not asked for it since.

I would give it back, really, it's no big bloody deal in the scheme of things is it? and it's no one else's bloody buisness either!

Good luck and hope you get some sleep

chickens I agree with those who say give it back for now...

Our dd2 is 2.5 years. Dummy is given at nap time and night time.

I really feel for you that your dd has given up her nap, quite likely due to the dummy being removed. She must be exhausted and so must you; our dd has a nap most days (say 5 days out of 7, and I miss the days she doesn't)

Dh and I have decided to wait until she is 3 at least before confronting the dummy issue. We (her parents) have let her have it all this time, and for our family it would be wrong to have a big battle at this stage.

I had a thread a while back where I talked out all my little niggly worries, including the dummy. One mner in particular was very kind and reassuring.

Anyway, wrt to keeping the dummy accessible in the cot. We have shown dd2 where the spare ones are...wedged into a safe little container in the corner of the cot. Easy for her to locate and easy for us to find if she is too sleepy to remember.

Wishing you a bit more rest/sleep soon whatever you decide.