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I know I am but how much!

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UpsetSelfish · 19/01/2010 11:52

Ok, so I know IABU but am I being completely unreasonable or is it a little bit ok for me to be a little upset?

Background..good friend & I always do Birthday & Christmas presents for each other. I have tried to stop the Christmas presents and just buy for kids but she insists. Her Bday was at the end of last year and despite being quite broke I saved up some money & chose a gorgeous prsent for her which I knew she would love, not sure if the price is relevant but it wasn't cheap.

Anyway, fast forward to my bday and she has given me just a card. Now I hate it when people moan about not getting presents, I think how selfish & bratish (and am perfectly prepared to be told that is exactly what I am being!) BUT is it understandasble for me to be a bit upset, it's not the money, it's the fact that she hasn't even done a token gift after knowing the effort I put in to hers. I know you don't give to receive and if her Bday was next week for example, I would still get her something. I would have been over the moon with a tiny gift then for her to say later in the year "lets not do bday gifts anymore".Just for the record she has no money probs & as I said it's not about the money..it's the lack of thought that I am hurt about.

So...go on then...give it to me straight!

OP posts:
junglist1 · 19/01/2010 15:05

That's what I thought too but didn't want to say

drloves8 · 19/01/2010 15:07

excuse me for being suspicious.
i know a woman who did this .
turned out she was trying to seduce her friends hubby - the man in question was horrified and told his wife ....the woman was seen the next day wearing sun glasses in the rain - i think the wife had a wee chat with her ...

ImSoNotTelling · 19/01/2010 15:13

I wouldn't say anything like that!

I just thought maybe her nose was out of joint about OP suggesting stopping presents in teh first place or something.

megapixels · 19/01/2010 15:13

YANBU. Only because you wanted to stop the present giving but she insisted you carry on.

UpsetSelfish · 19/01/2010 15:33

lol, there is definately nothing to worry about with regards to her and DH, am laughing at the thought! I don't want to give away any identifying dtails but there are several very good reasons why that is out of the question, apart from the fact I would trust her with my life..so obviously my husband! We live very close to each other and saw each other on my bday so a failed delivery is unlikely.

Anyway, thanks for understanding- was waiting for a onslaught of people telling me I was being a spoilt brat!

OP posts:
drloves8 · 19/01/2010 16:33

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your not a spoilt brat imo.

itsmeolord · 19/01/2010 16:37

How do you know that she didn't get your husband a present then have a huge bill which left her unable to get you one?

And does it really matter? It has actually done you a favour, you now have the perfect excuse not to bother getting presents in future, which is what you wanted.

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