to enjoy being off sick?

mrsflux · 2010-01-19T11:23:34+00:00

i've got the lurgy so am off work. really couldn't teach 30 kids with no voice. ds is at nursery as normal, dh is at work. i can do whatever i like and have! yesterday i got all our paperwork in order - dull but strangely pleasing and so far today i've watched a film and played online. should i feel guilty?

indiewithacold · 19/01/2010 11:24

I'm feeling a bit guilty, kids at childminder and school, dh at work and I'm sat on mumsnet. Feel pretty crap though, going back to bed soon.
Don't feel guilty, you can't help feeling ill.

HuwEdwards · 19/01/2010 11:26

If you can enjoy being off ill, you can't be that ill.

HuwEdwards · 19/01/2010 11:26

oops missed the bit where you say you've no voice.

In that case, enjoy!

shonaspurtle · 19/01/2010 11:34

I was off sick one day last week and I enjoyed it. I felt like hell but I made the most of ds being at nursery and lay in my bed all day.

The day I took off sick was at the end of my working week though so I had to get up and get on with ds for the other two days of the lurgy. No fun at all.

That's actually the hardest thing I find about being a parent . I'm a crawl-into-bed-and-don't-come-out-until-cured sort of sick person so having ds has been a rude awakening..

UnderneathTheStream · 19/01/2010 12:29

I?m off sick as well, and I?m also a teacher! Had a miscarriage with complications last week but still feel awfully guilty at being off.
Never mind that just hanging out the washing made me so dizzy I had to go and lie down for 15mins, and that I keep wanting to cry all the time ? I still feel I should be teaching! Especially as my colleagues are covering my poor exam classes for me?.

shonaspurtle · 19/01/2010 12:32

Sorry about your miscarriage UnderneathTheStream. Be kind to yourself.

UnderneathTheStream · 19/01/2010 12:37

Thank you, - I?ve eaten all my Christmas chocolates and letting myself off doing housework. In fact I?ve given the fluff bunnies names and am thinking of adopting them?

Hulababy · 19/01/2010 12:38

HuwEdwards - disagree. I have had this situation on more than one occassion. Well enough to do stuff gently, but not well enough to be in a class of children, or in first cases, not well enough to be in a prison environment.

I am currently off sick. This is my third week and all being well I should be back next Monday, so long as the GP signs me nack as well enough. The first two weeks I was very poorly - have pnuemonia and been in hospital with it. I am now recovering. At home I am well enough to potter about and do gentle stuff. I am well enough to go to a friends for a coffee, or for them to come and see me, I am well enough to do a school run in an afternoon and to drive DD to an activity club (DH collects later).

However I am not well enough yet to be in a class of 30 5/6yos. I am tired very very easily at the moment and deep breaths make me catch my breath and cause coughing.

The last twice I was off and still doing stuff was when I worked in a male prison. I has two ops and then some very heavy duty hormone tablets for 9 weeks after. I was not allowed to go into work as it put me in too much of a vunerable position, which could be potentially dangerous. However I was well enough to potter, have lunch with a friend, go to the hairdressers, do the school run, etc.

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mrsflux · 19/01/2010 12:48

underneaththestream - oh hugs to you! take care of yourself!

think all us poorly babes should probably stop feeling guilty. after all we do spend lots of time taking care of others!
gonna try the supermarket later as will be easier to do without ds tomorrow.

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UnderneathTheStream · 19/01/2010 12:51

I think teachers especially get this guilt. When I had an office job I could go in and do the bare minimum ? but you can?t when a teacher ? you?ve got to be 100% there.
Guilt in this situation is a useless emotion ? so go enjoy being off!

Besides ? I?m assuaging my guilt by sending in cover work, checking work emails, and have arranged for marking to be dropped off?. Yes I know I?m an idiot?

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mrsflux · 19/01/2010 12:57

underthestream you are a very dedicated professional!
i sent an email for today but have no intention of marking or anything else. make sure you take some time for yourself too! school won't fall apart without you, well it might but you'll be back to put it together again later.

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mrstimlovejoy · 19/01/2010 13:04

i'm a nurse and i'm off sick this is my 2nd week as i slipped on the ice and broke my thumb.i'm getting frustrated now though as i'm not ill as such just unable to drive or do my job.i've been trying to do bits around the house but struggling abit.
think is i was off over new year as i had a really bad chest infection so i do feel guilty.

PuppyMonkey · 19/01/2010 13:08

I broke my arm once and had a week off and I really enjoyed it.

MrsGazebo · 19/01/2010 13:29

UnderneathTheStream I'm so sorry about your MC. How are you holding up? Be good to yourself Missus!

This is my second week off, I also had a MC on the 8th and have been told not to come back in until Tue next week.

I don't feel guilty, I needed time emotionally to come to terms with this again.
Yeah, I'm bored and day time TV is slowly sapping the life out of me but on the plus side I've discovered MN which has been a god send and it's doing my diet the world of good as I've not moved from the lap top/sofa to actually eat anything yet!
Tummy is shouting at me!

I work hard as I'm sure you all do so, we shouldn't beat ourselves up about having a bit of legitimate time off.

Enjoy! And would someone please make me a sandwhich lol

UnderneathTheStream · 19/01/2010 13:36

MrsGazebo so sorry for you. Do you keep thinking you?re ok then collapse either physically or emotionally, or is that just me?
(I haemorrhaged AND had cervical shock Thursday so I think I?m still only getting over the physical stuff, and haven?t started thinking about the emotional stuff really?)
I was thinking of treating myself to a massage, but the effort to organise it just seems too much?.
What have you been up to, to look after yourself?

MrsGazebo · 19/01/2010 14:04

Blimey Under back away from the washing now and book that massage!
Whats the number , I'll do it!
Excuse the blonde-ness, What is Cervical shock? If you're happy to discuss it.

Physically I'm doing ok, feel a bit of a fraud in that way.
Emotionally.... I think it's yet to hit me properly.
This was my 6th MC and although we'd got futher than before (seeing a heartbeat twice) I was holding back from thinking baby until I got to 12 weeks.
We got to 10.

I was taking part in a blind u(NK)Cell Research Trial with either steriods or placebo so it was easy to get caught up with the medical side of it.

I've not been doing much, friends and family have kept me occupied and I've been purging myself with coffee, chocolate, wine, runny cheese and pate!

Back on the wagon soon though. Gota keep tryin'

Look after yourself and do not put a time limit on how you feel.
If you need anything/want to rant/feel odd/ seek me out xx

MrsGazebo · 19/01/2010 14:06

Blimey Under back away from the washing now and book that massage!
Whats the number , I'll do it!
Excuse the blonde-ness, What is Cervical shock? If you're happy to discuss it.

Physically I'm doing ok, feel a bit of a fraud in that way.
Emotionally.... I think it's yet to hit me properly.
This was my 6th MC and although we'd got futher than before (seeing a heartbeat twice) I was holding back from thinking baby until I got to 12 weeks.
We got to 10.

I was taking part in a blind u(NK)Cell Research Trial with either steriods or placebo so it was easy to get caught up with the medical side of it.

I've not been doing much, friends and family have kept me occupied and I've been purging myself with coffee, chocolate, wine, runny cheese and pate!

Back on the wagon soon though. Gota keep tryin'

Look after yourself and do not put a time limit on how you feel.
If you need anything/want to rant/feel odd/ seek me out xx

MrsGazebo · 19/01/2010 14:10

Ooops! Cat tried to climb on lap top and I posted twice, any ideas how to remove one so I don't look stoopid?

UnderneathTheStream · 19/01/2010 14:47

Cervical shock is (apparently) when it all gets wedged in the cervix and can?t go anywhere. You end up with increasingly painful contractions, and it triggers some nerve thing that sends you into shock?

I?m so sorry that you?ve had to go through this so many times. This is (only?!) my second ? and I haemorrhaged that time as well?

Yes got to keep trying. I?ll keep my fingers crossed for your next time.

I?ve also enjoyed wine, tea and blue cheese in the past few days!

HuwEdwards · 19/01/2010 14:56

Hulababy, ok yes I work in a very diff environment from you, so I can see your point.

by the way you didn't need to mention your time inside

Hulababy · 19/01/2010 14:59

lol Huw - DD used to be forever telling people her mummy was in prison, never adding ont he vital information that I was working there not residing there!

I have only ever worked in environments where you have to be on good form to cope.