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AIBU?

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to think my husband should sod his stupid non-existent staff meeting

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takethatlady · 19/01/2010 10:08

Hi,

My husband and I are a couple of months off ttc our first child. He has always wanted children, as have I, but it is only in the last six months or so that we have both felt now is the right time.

Anyway, after much discussion with DH, yesterday I made an appointment for us to see our GP in a couple of week's time. It can be tricky getting appointments at our surgery, especially as he is a teacher and works half an hour away so has to have appointments last thing in the day.

When I told him I had booked it, he said 'well, I hope I haven't got an after-school meeting that day. I'm sure I haven't, but if I have, I won't be able to go'. I said that unless he had a parent's evening, which obviously he can't get out of, I would expect him to be there. He said that staff meetings are compulsory and that he wouldn't miss it, even for this appointment, especially as it is hardly necessary that we even have an appointment or because we could change the date.

I know he's got a point - I could just get another appointment - but this is supposed to be our first step to creating a family and to me it is a big deal. I want to feel like he is as excited as me, otherwise what's the point? And people always get out of stupid staff meetings if they have doctor's appointments or kids to pick up or a hundred other things. It's no big deal.

The stupid thing is, he doesn't even have a meeting, so it's a pointless argument anyway. I just can't believe that he would raise it as an issue.

AIBU?

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chaosisawayoflife · 19/01/2010 11:00

Yes, I'm afraid you are a little bit. If he has a compulsory staff meeting and a non-urgent doctors appointment, the staff meeting has to take precedence. Assuming he knows about all his meetings in advance then you should just plan the docs around that. If it was a last minute meeting called on the day, then I'd probably feel a bit different, but depending on how important it was he would still be justified in going to the meeting. Why do you need to see the doc before you start ttcing anyway, if you don't mind me asking?

GypsyMoth · 19/01/2010 11:01

why is this posted again??

chaosisawayoflife · 19/01/2010 11:05

And also, once you have children there will be lots of times when you think he should be home but he can't/won't and if it is already a source of anger for you then you really need to work on this before you ttc. Particularly for the first months when you are at home and he is at work (depending on how long you stay off) its very easy to start resenting him because he gets to get out of the house and go to work and you are trapped with a screaming, demanding baby, but you have to understand his responsibilities to work as well as family, and it's not as easy as him just ignoring a staff meeting or leaving work because his wife wants him home.

chaosisawayoflife · 19/01/2010 11:06

ooops, didn't see the other thread with loads of replies saying what I'm saying!

takethatlady · 19/01/2010 12:12

Oops - I don't know how I did this. Tried to preview a post and got lost, obviously posted it by mistake. Sorry. You can see my change of heart on the other thread. Sorry!

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Lulumama · 19/01/2010 12:14

why are you going to see the doctors?

unless you have fertility issues, there is no need to really go and discuss this is there?

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