to think that my doctor was out of order saying this?

[gingertoo]

Doc: Hello, how can I help you?

Ginger: I've been trying to conceive for a year now and...

Doc: (interrupting) How many children have you got?

Ginger: Three

Doc: (abruptly) If you've got three children, why are you trying to have another one?

Ginger: Well, erm... etc

I had actually gone to see her because I'm suffering vile periods and as it happens we have decided that we are no longer going to ttc#4 as the planned 'big ones - little ones' age gap we had planned is not going to happen because it's taken so long....

So what do you think?

AIBU and a little bit over sensitive or is the doctor being a bit unreasonable getting all judgy with me?

YANBU, cheeky cow.

No yanbu. Doctor has totally failed to listen to you and their opinion of the number of children you should have is totally irrelevant. I've got a friend who staggered to the doctor with dreadful morning sickness in her fourth pregnancy. Doctor's response 'well you shouldn't have got pregnant then'

YANBU, it's none of her business how many kids you've already got.

Definitely not, she is not their to pass judgement on family life, she is their for a medical need only, very unprofessional, and one tbh I would be putting a complain in too the practise manager x

Glad you agree!

It's not the first time it's happened with this doctor actually.

After ds3 I went to get some contraception and she told me that she'd give me something this time but that I needed to start thinking about a 'more permament' method of contraception

Is this your usual GP? Sounds barking- I would change tbh

YANBU

YANBU -- sounds like this GP has ishoos of some sort re people having "too many" kids. Avoid if possible.

YANBU!!!

Is it a large(ish) practice? If so could you not see one of the other GPs?

Thanks everyone

Changing doctors is definitely an option. We have not got a doctor in our village so people tend to go to practices in two neighbouring villages so I could try the other one.

I'm cross with myself that I didn't think of changing doctors sooner.

I've put off going to the doctors for ages because she's such a cow and it's starting to look like I should have gone much sooner

the how many children question might be linked to criteria for which referral to a fertility clinic might be funded/not

the why do you want another question was crass

YADNBU

Is your Doctor my Doctor Gingertoo?

I went to see her about contraception/awful periods following a miscarriage.

Me: We have decided we don't want anymore children

Doc: Yes, I can see that, you had a termination in March

Me: No, I had a miscarriage!

Still feel the rage when I think of it!!!

YANBU I got this from a HCA whilst she was taking my blood at the practice "You will stop at 3 dc won't you?" "You can't give more than 3dc the attention they need" so on and so forth . I was very close to telling her to fuck off tbh, fwiw I do plan to stop, but it's none of her damn business. I also was offered sterilisation at every turn, fgs I am only 28, I have no idea where I will be in 10 years no matter how I will feel, grr.

Imo doctors should actually listen, poor you, deffo go to another one and check out your symptoms.