giving birth to a boy appeared to be linked to a lower quality of life, compared to giving birth to a girl."

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"The researchers also found that even if the woman did not have PND, giving birth to a boy appeared to be linked to a lower quality of life, compared to giving birth to a girl."

I really am shocked by this.....am i missing out and having a lower quality of life because I am having a second boy???

www.irishhealth.com/article.html?id=13070

i had post natal euphoria too - didn't realise it was common both times, but more after ds than dd, as obv when dd arrived I also had a toddler to look after

What nonsense. I have a dd (3) and a ds (1) and i have to say ds is definatly the easier of the two. He is quiet, contented and he still makes my heart beat faster when i see him

DD is more hard work because she is much more highly strung and has a strong personality, even at just 3

Might be a good idea to wait until they are teenagers before making such sweeping statements (2boys and 1 girl here).

Utter rubbish! (mother of 3 boys)

I have two girls and one boy. Had PND after the boy (middle pregnancy) I dont think it was anything to do with him being a boy more to do with a difficult pregnancy and still being on medication afterwards!.
Having said that he is more work than the two girls put together but I think thats just his personality !

Tis bollocks. Having children generally changes your life - regardless of what sex it is - but for the better (on the whole) in my opinion (though admit if you're measuring quality of life by the number of lie ins you get post children, then yes you have a lower quality of life post kids)

Both my sister and sister in law had children together. With the boys ( both now 4) my sister experienced very severe pnd, my sil however was fine. They both then had girls (now 1) my sister managed to get two girls- twins, much harder to cope with than a single baby of either sex. Neither my sis or sil have pnd this time. Does that mean that because from 5 children the experience of pnd was because the child in question was a boy? No. Of course not. It means that people are individual and have different experiences with each child and stupid ignorant generalisations should not be made out of such figures! (Although i have read somewhere that an overwhelming majority of pregnant women would prefer a girl given the choice. Perhaps their 'study' is related to this) Enjoy your son.

Perhaps our quality of life gets lower 20/30/40 years after giving birth, when we become MILs and have these DILs always finding fault with us?

apparently PND is more common among mothers of boys (says my PND counsellor)

I only have 1 DS. I always wanted a girl until I got my lovely DS who was a fantastic baby and a lovely toddler (when he is not throwing the tantrums, but even then I know how to handle him).

After talking to other friends (who have both), they have all said that girls are harder work, more independant, not as cuddly etc (not saying this about all girls, just passing on what I have been told).

I have also heard from many that if you have a really good first DC, then your next one will probably be a nightmare! I hpoe not. My DH is adamant that that is what is going to happen to us.

After having my DS I would quite happily have another boy and not be disappointed about not having a girl, which before, is what I always wanted.

I had mild PND after my DD, just contentment really with DS although trying to stop DD sitting on him is a little wearing.

I do wish he would sleep a bit better but otherwise is a lovely baby - much easier than DD. Shock horror- could it be down to the personality of any particular baby?

poppycock!

I'm really interested to see so many people on this thread with 2 boys and 2 girls( I have the same but had my girls first)but don't know of anyone else in real life who has that combo!

welsh- my sister just completed her set of 4. She has G, B, G, B. Very neat. I was hoping for B, G, G, B, but instead got DD3 who is a delight.

That's just as symmetrical duchesse!
Congratulations on DD3. I read some research recently that boys with lots of sisters are excellent communicators, can express their emotions and show great empathy as they grow older....listening to and immitating all the wonderfully strong women in the life maybe?

I have 2 boys followed by 2 girls.I have to say I haven't found one sex easier than the other.Each child has had their own individual personality and character.

evanshayleyleanne "Although i have read somewhere that an overwhelming majority of pregnant women would prefer a girl given the choice"

Do you think this is really true?

welshandproud,I'd agree with you there.DH has 5 sisters and has all the qualities you mention.

I am coping with a mega-stroppy teenage DD1, gorgeous and zany DD2 (though approaching teens ) and the most adorable toddler DS. He out-cutes the girls at the same age by a long way.

As for quality of life, what's their yardstick? When DD1 was tiny I lived an expat lifestyle and didn't need to work. Now I've nipped on here in a ten-minute break from work because I need to put in all the hours God sends. I've got a lower quality of life because I've got 3 children and a full-time job, and I'm still broke, not because I had a boy! He is the thing that keeps me smiling most through the daily crap.

bless your little boy ClaraJo! Enjoy him!

It's bollocks, isn't it? Although, I know lots of women who wanted girls, far more than wanted boys.

Is this supposed to be to do with the kind of hormones that are sloshing round in your body after birth?

I have heard similar things from the traditions of ex h's ancient civilisation. They know a lot of things, eg that left handed people live less long than right handed people, which was recently trumpeted by Western science as a discovery, so I am prepared to believe that there may be something in this too.

Oh gawd, I am doomed

DS4 on his way, gah!

Is it too late to change my mind? Some kind MNer recently offered me to swap one of her girls for one of my boys ...

What clap-trap!