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AIBU?

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to want to say something to Nursery

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shoptilidrop · 18/01/2010 17:53

I picked DD up from nursery today, and she was actually totally filthy. They were playing outside.
Her coat is covered in mud and some pink stuff. Its a new coat, a cheap one from the next sale. And i can wash it.
I send her in cheap clothes anyway, so it doesnt matter. I dont usually mind a bit of mess but this was beyhond even what i can handle. Her jogging bottoms were caked in mud and soaking wet at the bottom. Her face was covered in dirt. her hands were also covered in thick mud and it was all under her fingernails. She even had mud in her hair.

Kids will be kids. Like i said, i dont mind and never in almost a year has she come back from nursery in such a state. Should i say something? i dont want to rock the boat as ive been more than happy with it all. BUT, this was a little bit much even for me.

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ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 18/01/2010 18:00

I'd be more concerned having a clean child home every day. I am not sure what you can't handle? Coat is washable - bung it all in the wash, DD in the bath. They could spend ages cleaning up 20 odd kids, though maybe a flannel over the face and handwash may have been nice.

evanshayleyleanne · 18/01/2010 18:01

yanbu if this was a regular occurance. but just this once? and usually you have no problems? i'd leave it, look at it as a one off.

Lubyloo · 18/01/2010 18:02

I wish my DD came home from nursery dirty. It is a new nursery and they never seem to go outside.

WeWantYourDoofDoofs · 18/01/2010 18:03

YABU.

It's obviously a one off, did she fall over or something? I'd be more concerned that she had and nobody told you rather than some mud, then again I sent my kids to nursery in old clothing so they could be messy without worrying.

Don't see what your problem is tbh.

cookielove · 18/01/2010 18:04

Was she having fun when you picked her up?

If she was out in the garden though would have prob cleaned her up when they went in, but as you picked her up from the garden there was no need

StewieGriffinsMom · 18/01/2010 18:05

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Pancakeflipper · 18/01/2010 18:05

I agree with EHL - if it's a one off it's a one off.

At the moment there are some very muddy kids since the snow has left tempting muddy sludge.

My sons have nursery wardrobes - clothes either past their best or stuff I dislike.

diddl · 18/01/2010 18:05

If you send in cheap clothes what is the problem?

How about waterproof trousers & jacket that can be wiped down?

All the Kindergarten children have them here as they are out in all weathers.

Pancakeflipper · 18/01/2010 18:06

Forgot to ask - did she have fun?

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shoptilidrop · 18/01/2010 18:07

its all in the wash.
I did say, gosh, she looks grubby... one of the girls ( new) just looked blankly at me.
If they had maybe said, yeah, but shes had a great time i wouldnt have minded.

I always send her in cheap clothes, so really it doesnt matter. BUT she was literally caked in it. I dont think ive ever seen her so dirty.

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shoptilidrop · 18/01/2010 18:09

she normally comes home dirty and scruffy. But this was just SUPER dirty. And all over her face and in her hair.

I know, im being silly.

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IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern · 18/01/2010 18:12

YABU sorry.
I collected ds from nursery today and they were playing outside.
Try as the teachers might and no matter how many times they rounded the children up and asked them to stay off the muddy parts they children were back there in an instant.

I would just be happy that they take them outside I have known nurseries that barely do it so just be grateful she is getting out in the fresh air and the nrsery staff aren't afraid to stick on a coat in January and go out and play.

Morloth · 18/01/2010 18:15

YABU, a messy/muddy/dirty child is a child who has had an excellent day. I only ever sent DS to nursery in his cheapest, oldest clothes then just ran them through the wash.

Toss her in a nice warm bath and all sorted.

jabuti · 18/01/2010 21:12

i dont mind it as long as my dd was not wet and with her face dirty for a long period. in my dd's nursery we need to leave spare clothes solely for the purpose if they get wet or dirty to an uncomfortable stage, they can change her.

i wouldnt dream to ask them to be careful with her clothes, i dont think that thats their job and i prefer she has fun. and i have been told to put tags on them if i dont want them to get lost. so she only uses clothes to nursery that i dont mind if they get dirty/stained/with holes in it (which rarely happens anyway).

i hope it helps

dmo · 18/01/2010 21:21

oh dear dont send your dd to me then 13mth old went home today gruby from crawling around at toddler group etc

a dirty child is a happy one

GoldenGreen · 18/01/2010 21:22

Muddy is one thing but soaking wet is another. Ds' nursery would definitely have changed him into his spare set of clothes or lent us some trousers if he was really caked in mud to that extent. Plus they would have wiped his face.

Like you, I have no problem with mess or mud but this does sound extreme and the blank look when you mentioned it would have annoyed me as well.

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shoptilidrop · 19/01/2010 08:41

yeah. She wasnt just dirty or a bit muddy. She was caked in it.
I have no problems with a bit of dirt, paint, playdoh, glittler, glue. General dirt from running around nursery. The clothes i send her in are cheap primark ones.
BUT she was literally caked in wet mud. All in her hair, all over her face. Up her arms. All under her nails. her trousers were sodden. I had sent her in wellies, so that was ok. Her coat has had to go through the washing machine twice. Its a small private nursery and they dont play outside for that long. I just wonder what she was doing to get so dirty, and why didnt anyone stop her. Noone of the other children were that covered.
ALso, noone said anything to me.
Im pleased shes having a fun time, thats great. But i dont pay £31 for a session for them to be so neglectful, They could at least have wiped her face and hands, or got her to change into her spare clothes?

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gingernutlover · 19/01/2010 08:53

were they playing outside when you got there?

If they were then they hadnt done the hand washing and clothes changing yet as it would be pointless.

If she had been taken inside and left in soaking wet cold clothes for hours, or made to eat her dinner with dirt all over her then fair enough, you should be annoyed.

I teach reception and it is amazing the state some of the children can get into while your back is turned for a second - and theres no point changing them until you all go in, as they will get the new clothes dirty too.

Where are you that you pay £31 a day? Ours is £52

gingernutlover · 19/01/2010 08:55

or even lol

oh and I find the new young girls arent always that great at communicating, I always catch the eye of one fo the older/more established ones if I want to ask something.

DaftApeth · 19/01/2010 08:55

Unless you had picked her up when she was still outside playing in the garden, I would have expected them to have washed her hands and face. I would be a little worried about any germs that might be present in the mud (and I am not a paranoid mum!).

Strange that they did not acknowledge all the mud in any way.

Shoshe · 19/01/2010 08:55

God its a good job I dont look after your DD, I am a CM, and one October I took the children ranging from 2-8 to the Lulworth Cove.

The older ones were playing on the slope leading to the beach, they found a clay hill about 5ft tall, the eldest found a lenor bottle filled it with water and proceeded to turn the clay slope into a slide.

The kids were so caked I had to scrape the clay off them {grin]

They had to go home in their oats (which they had taken off) and knickers

But yes I did clean them up before they went home.

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shoptilidrop · 19/01/2010 08:56

nope, its 31 from 9 till 3.

There were only young girls there, i didnt see any of the usual staff about.

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gingernutlover · 19/01/2010 08:57

do you mean nope they werent still outside?

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shoptilidrop · 19/01/2010 09:44

shoshe. Well that sounds fab.
BUT you didnt send them home in mud caked clothes did you.
AND i expect you said to the parents what had happened.

I wouldnt haven minded that at all.

Yes, they had just gone outside when i got there, some of them were still in the cloakroom putting their coats on. SO she must have been in the wet, muddly clothes since the morning session.

Im not stupid or precious about it. Shes 4. Shes been at nurserys and childminders since she was 9 months old. Shes come back in some pretty grubby states. We have had clothes that have had to be binned as staines havent come out. but, i have NEVER seen her like that EVER.

And, the fact that noone even said anything. Yes, some of the staff are young BUT they are still being paid to do a job, and i do have to pay to send my child there.

If someone had said something to me about it, im probably wouldnt be quite so annoyed.

I wish i had taken a pic to put on my profile so you could see the level of mud i mean. She literally had clods of it in her hair.

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Sunshinemummy · 19/01/2010 10:21

I have the opposite problem at my nursery where they change DD into her spare clothes if she gets the ones she's wearing even slightly dirty so I have two sets of clothes to wash every day.

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