to REALLY REALLY want a baby one week after my husband has had the snip?

[popsypie]

Is is even possible for me to get pregnant now? I feel the proper aching longing like I had to get pregnant with DD1 and gorgeou babies are everywhere. HELP!!!

Errrrrrrr..... I think you've missed the boat

You surely must have made the decision not to have more DCs before he had the snip? I think it's the old 'wanting what you can't have' situation.

It is possible for you to get pregnant now but presumably your dh doesn't want you to get pregnant otherwise he wouldn't have had the snip!

There is a difference between wanting and needing I guess!! I want another baby, but after TWO YEARS of back and forth we decided we needed to stick rather than twist - two healthy kids, life moving on, focussing on the two we have etc. etc. I felt very at peace with my decision a week ago, but today the aching won't stop. Crazy.

PS: Think DH would let me have whatever I wanted but he was never convinced I really did want another one, so he probably won't this time.

I wonder what I would think if I had had a similar operation and H came to tell me he wanted another.....

Perhaps I would tell him to go and get it with another woman, and never to come back [sorry]

When I decluttered my wardrobe I followed all the ditch-it-if-you-haven't-worn-it-in-six-months rules.

I spent three weeks mourning my never worn Karen Millen evening dress, my £300 biker jacket my size 10 (ha!) shift.... I had made a horrible mistake! I needed those things, damn it!

But I got over it and now I can barely remember what they looked like, let alone why I wanted them. I just admire my lovely rapidly refilling empty wardrobe.

It stings a bit now because it's still so new (ask your husband - boom boom). You'll be totally fine about it pretty soon, honest.

And if you really really aren't..Well, it can be reversed, but rather you than me having to bring it up with your husband.

Think it is a bit more complicated for a woman though - I mean the having the baby and the getting sterilised too!!! I have not said anything to him yet - am just working through it myself and asking for some support on MN.

Yes, YABU but since female hormones and the desire to have just one more baby has never been 'reasonable' I don't think you should beat yourself up about it!

Knowing with absolute certainty that you will never have another baby is hard to get your head round and it's bound to feel very strange for a while.

Yes, you could get pregnant now, which is why they tell you to take extra precautions until your partner has had the all clear. It's unlikely, but possible - be very very careful!

Did you go through a similar experience (aside from your wardrobe) notanumber?

Please don't say anything to him. It is not as he can just go back to the hospital and have it reverted, is it?

You could live in the hope that it's gone as well for your DH as it did for mine first time round.

I am suddenly very fixated on all the nice bits of a new baby, new name, new pram, new clothes etc. My mind is blocking out all the complicated bits - maybe I can be rose tinted now cos it aint going to happen!!

purpleturtle - did you get all clears that were not all clears??

I did exactly this. started googling percentages rates for failures of vasectomies
it goes

Popsypie - no, no quite.

Agreed (mutually) to stop TTC after many hearbreaking losses and get coil fitted (so not anywhere near as final as your DH).

But I was totally on board with the plan until the afternoon on the day after when I cried and cried and cried because I really needed to be trying for a baby.

Turned out that I actually was okay with it after a couple of weeks. It was just a huge thing to get my head around in actuality rather than theory.

Though, of course, we did eventually get it removed and I am now pregnant. So I can't say I know exactly where you're coming from. Just sympathised with the sudden change of heart.

but they are shitty and keep you up all night crack open a bottle of wine instead or get a puppy so much cuter imo

The letter that came following the first sample said that the procedure had completely failed and would need to be done again.

Brave DH went through it all a 2nd time. Successfully.

Puple - your poor dh! Mine was rather worried that would be the case for him as it wasn't totally straightforward and he felt like crap afterwards. I think he would have really struggled to face it again but happily there was no need

Thank you for this. I was considering getting the snip but have now realised exactly what it would mean.