to not want any gifts or cash for my wedding

[fluffles]

DP and i are both quite mature, we both owned our own homes before we met and we've been together for five years.

We really don't need any kitchen ware or linen or towels.

We also don't want to ask for cash (although cash or restraunt or travel vouchers would be the most useful thing as we'll be pretty poor after paying for the wedding and wont be able to afford to go out or on holiday again for a long time).

We haven't even sent out invitations yet and i've had my first request for a 'gift list' and much about not having one (yet).

So AIBU for not wanting to make up a list of stuff i don't want in order to keep people happy?

We did this. Didn't need any 'stuff' really and didn't want a list. We told anyone who asked about a list that they could donate to a local charity (that had a special meaning to DH and me) if they wanted to, but we didn't mention this on the invite - just to anyone who asked.

Only a couple of people did this though and we did get quite a few presents. All nice though, and appreciated.