I'd like some of your advice.

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My husband sister always get him household goods like kitchen tools or ornaments for his birthday present ot Christmas present.

And I'd like to use our household goods that I choose and buy myself or with my husband together rather than someone else's get us.
I don't want to imagine our rooms and kitchen will be full of items his sister gave to him one day!

Would it be unreasonable to tell my husband to give her tips to get him his personal stuff instead of housewares from next time?

Thank you.

I think it would come across as rude if he did that. Could you just say that you would rather she gave presents to the children rather than the adults. In our family we only give to the adults who don't have children, before we had ds we were given so many kitchen gadgets it became silly. Most of the presents we received were quite nice but there are only so many fondue sets and chopping boards that you can make room for! I was quite relieved when we no longer received presents when ds came along, now we are just tripping over toys, the number of presents he received this christmas was obscene.

Sell the presents on eBay and buy what you want - or would sil notice the 'missing' items?

Does your husband moan about what his sister gets him or is it just you? I think she is perfectly entitled to get him what she likes and not what you want, considering neither present is for you.

YABU, really! what does it matter, its his sister . it will come across really badly if you say that. just use a some, and if you hate then car boot/ebay

Thank you for your comments.

We don't have children so we can't ask her presents for children instead of adults.

He likes his present from his sister so it's not that I can just sell it or give it to someone else unless I have a spefic reason.

It's not my present so I cannot moan about it but I've been not pleased that I have to have them in my home and see them or use them. And this will keep happening every twice a year. So I wanted to find a solution if I can stop this.

Sorry YAB a bit U

Your SIL buys him things she thinks he'll like for his Birthday

He does like them

Moan about it to yourself, but if you try and do anything about it yourself you will appear rude and control-freaky

YABU.

My sil bought us a toilet brush one Christmas. I have to to live with it; why shouldn't you?

YABU. Totally.
Unless your SIL is a Voodoo Queen and has cast terrible spells over your whisks and garlic press, that is. Otherwise you come across as very slightly strange.

Are they really that awful that you can't bear to look at them?

I have to guess what this stuff is now!

vacuum cleaner covers?

toilet roll cover?

seashell lamp?

But if your husband likes his sister's presents- why is your opinion more important than his? Why would it be fairer if you bought the household items? Don't you both have an equal say?

Why does it worry you to imagine your kitchen full of items his sister bought him? Is there anything nasty about his sister that means you can't bear to be reminded of her?

you sound as though you don't like his sister tbh