to think DH is selfish for getting angry and sulking for days after a fight?

[pregnantandgrouchy]

DH and I had a fight on Sat over a plan to go out for lunch. He agreed to wake up at 12 noon so that we can leave on time but didn't wake up until I went to wake him up at 1pm. I got upset at him for being unreliable - it's not the first time he's done this, and pinched him hard to wake him up which upset him. It escalated when he set about winding me up and I called him a "fucker" which got him upset again when I didn't stop (he threatened to go without me if I didn't stop, I got upset as he threatened - he should have just asked). All in all we didn't go, he drove off without me, nearly leaving me locked outside in the cold - I had to bang on his bloody car window to get the house keys. Then after 5 mins he came back again after I had started making myself something to eat, and was annoyed when I said I didn't want to go. Now he's been stonewalling since and accusing me of "gouging" him (his interpretation of the pinch) and calling him names. I think he's being unreasonable and childish. He has been on best behaviour the past few months and had been looking after me very well (I'm now 8 months pregnant), and now he's decided to completely bail out of being supportive as he says he's fed up. AIBU to think that he should just grow up and not make a mountain out of a small domestic?! Or do you think he's making this an excuse?

I think you need an alarm clock.

Physically attacking someone and swearing at them is hardly a 'molehill'. You're pregnant, not dying, stop being such a spoilt bitch. If you want him to behave like an adult with you, don't act like a child.

I'd be fed up of you too!

I've got to say that if anyone woke me up with a hard pinch, I'd be less than amiable. I get the distinct impression that it'd be more reasonable if both of you grew up a bit.

Why's he still in bed at 12 noon?
Why did you feel the need to pinch him? Why did you feel the need to swear at him?

Goodness, you both sound as bad as each other to be honest, you both really need to sort this out before you have your baby and bring it into this.

YABU. Sorry.

Agree with coldtits. Why would you wake your DH up by 'pinching him hard?!' And why would you be surprised that that caused an argument? Being pregnant is no excuse.

oh dear, guessed as much that we were both being childish. He's still in bed at 12 noon as he's been on the computer till 5/6am playing games. I pinched him as it was the nth time he was doing it and I was fed up of always having to wake him up for him to keep his promises. He doesn't work, I've been putting him through uni (2nd degree as he couldn't get a job with his 1st one as it was a 3rd). He's now graduated over a year ago but hasn't yet found a job that he likes and doesn't want one that isn't "suitable". TBH, I know I ABU to pinch him but I do get quite wound up at times esp when he also refuses to discuss why he's still not working.

Oh jesus, this sounds like a nightmare situation.

He has no job
He stays up al night playing on the computer
you're pregnant.

Sort something out. He's unlikely to ever support you properly.

Ok, so this thread should really have been called "Am I being unreasonable to expect my feckless husband to get a job as I am 8 months pregnant".

Seems that this is what it is really all about.

In which case I would have answered YANBU

Get rid of the computer, give him a copy of the job pages and push him out of the door. How old is he? Staying up all night to play computer games is teenager behaviour.

Well your frustration is understandable but at the same time, you physically assaulted him, and that's not good. It's not Ok to do something that physically hurts another person, no matter how hormonal and cross you are. By all means sit him down and tell him he either gets a grip and stops being so idle or he can leave, but 'hard pinches' are not a way to stay on the moral high ground. AT ALL.