To be very annoyed with my friend

[Boys2mam]

She split with her boyfriend (again) last week and asked me to babysit her DS1 (4) last night so she could go out. Her DS2 (2) is with her sister and DS3 (3mths) is with ex-bf's DM. I agreed and her DS1 was dropped off at 5pm last night.

So, its now 11:21 and I have heard not a word from her. I've texted her to see what time she intends collecting him, no reply so I called and it just rang out.

I'm really annoyed. If I was lucky enough to have a friend babysit for me then I would be in touch first thing to make sure all was ok and make collection arrangements.

Or am I just being a grumpy cow cos I've been up since 6 with DS2?

Yanbu.

The poor child

No, not unreasonable at all.

Fair enough, if she didn't get intouch because she'd arranged to collect her DS at midday but if she hasn't given you a rough time then she should have called before now.

Has she form for this sort of selfishness and thoughtlessness? Your post rather gives the impression that she might have, and it's understandable that you're annoyed (better be 'too busy' too look after her DC in future...)
However, if she's never done it before, hopefully this doesn't mean she's been hit by a bus or something. Have you tried ringing round her other babysitters to see if a) they know where she is and b) if you can drop her DS off with one of his siblings if you have things to do?

Oh good point about checking with other babysitters. Might put your mind at ease. You will be less cross if you aren't uneasy and worried on top.

YADNBU

It is irresponsible of the mum not to have made contact with you to at least check on her child.

Does she just assume it does not matter what time she picks up her child or that you won't have plans yourself today?

Very strange.

Thanks for the replies, I really did wonder if I was out of order!!
She said she would pick him up "first thing" but no firm arrangements were made.

My DS1 is at a party at 1pm and I can't just turn up with another child. Once DS2 wakes up from his nap I'll go to her house and hopefully she'll just still be asleep.

YANBU

'First Thing'!?
Its now midday!

Like you say, without her children to wake her up at the crack of dawn she's probably still asleep!
(We all know we'd like to be!)

Hope you get things sorted before 1. Would be unfair if it affected your DS going to the party.

I just got a call off the friend (D) she went out with and my friend (S) left her phone at D's house on her way home...

...seemingly with the 'ex'

Now I know IANBU but I can drop S's DS at D's house.

She's now down one babysitter

Agree beforehand a time she is picking up her child.
If this happens regularly then she's not really a friend, as friends wouldn't do that would they?

Thats bad.

You taking bets on whether you'll get an apology?

My guess is 'No'.

YANBU. Not least because she should be contactable at all times.

When a friend babysits for me, we agree a time and I'm generally back half an hour before hand.

She has well and truly taken the pi$$.

Did you get an apology?

I got my apology; she was extremely apologetic and couldn't thank me enough for having her DS. I told her I don't mind having him but she needs to be contactable at all times and I don't expect to have him til 12:30 (which is when I dropped him off). Above all, I don't expect to have to phone around looking for her.

Thanks for your input Ladies, at least I don't feel a cow for being a bit hard on her.