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AIBU?

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Original poster

To give DS2 the foods I know he will eat???

36 replies

TheLadyEvenstar · 15/01/2010 23:45

For example,

any given meal could be any of the following...

egg, ham, wotsits and cubes of cheese

beans, bread, mash and cheese

Mash, Gravy,and sweetcorn

chicken, sweetcorn, mash and gravy

Jacket potato, cheese and beans

spaghetti, cheese

bread, ham, cheese and beans

Curry and jacket potato

stew and mash

casserole and mash

(you get the idea he likes mash and cheese yet??)

HE does have some Veg but not a huge amount, he eats some fruit but he is a fussy eater to a certain extent, basically he likes what he likes.

I have had 5 people tell me in the last 3 weeks that i should not be giving him the food listed above, but I would prefer he ate a meal that i know he will like and enjoy rather than battle with him over meal times.

so AIBU??

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moanyhole · 15/01/2010 23:48

i do the same
i tried to get tough but it didnt work.
most of the food on your list is healthy so YANBU

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TheLadyEvenstar · 15/01/2010 23:51

MH thanks, I did all the battling i ever want to experience at meal times with ds1 9 years ago and tbh i do not want to do it again!!!

I am of the mind now, that as long as he is eating something he is fine....

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moanyhole · 16/01/2010 00:00

me too... if i get tough, insist he eats what we're eating, he quite happily will just go without food at all.
so he gets a choice, and so long as its reasonably healthy, albeit quite often a bizarre combination of food on the plate, i dont care so long as he eats something!

ChilloGETALIFEhippi · 16/01/2010 00:01

YANBU. I do the same.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 00:02

MH, the oddest one we had was

egg, ham, sweetcorn, gherkins,cheese and beans....

BUT he ate it all!!

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 00:04

I just don't get why some people seem to find fault with everything i bloody do with DS's ...

Like being lectured that DS2 should be out of nappies, not have a bedtime and morning bottle, should be in his own room blah de blah de blah

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moanyhole · 16/01/2010 00:11

yackidy yack yack. the parenting police are everywhere. i coslept- shouldnt be doing that. i expressed exclusively- nope shouldnt do that either. I still give DS a night time bottle- nope bad too. bahdy blahdy blah. just ignore it and carry on doing what you know is best for your child.

today DS had spinach, cheesestrings, ham and mandarines on his dinner plate

CirrhosisByTheSea · 16/01/2010 00:19

Sounds a pretty good diet to me! He must be having veg in the stew/casserole/curry, as well, is he? So that would make more than just sweetcorn and mash!

If he won't eat chunks of veg, you could always blend them up into the sauce of the stews/curry to get them in him

also lots of kids like fruit all blended up into a smoothie/milkshake

but I think really his diet sounds varied and absolutely fine! Tell people to bog off!

cerealqueen · 16/01/2010 00:22

YANBU, I do the same but add the odd wild card now and again of a new food. Houmous surprised me, DD devours it. Ham goes down so fast it hardly touches the sides. Really envying the mash thing. Given up on potatoes unless its a potato waffle. (smile)

cerealqueen · 16/01/2010 00:24

oh and DD has reintroduced me to how lovely sweetcorn is. Despite the fact it comes out whole. .

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 00:29

only milkshake he will drink is cholit (pronounced his way or chocolate pronounced our way)

he hates juice and water but i am getting there with that, he is a milkmonster and will drink as much milk as he can.

He eats all veg in stews and casseroles, leeks, swede, corgette, potatoes, mushrooms, onions, brussels etc...put a carrot on his plate and watch him turn into a mini me lol both of us turn green at the sight/taste of them.

Homous is a fav here with pitta bread and cubed/salad tomatoes.

Now if i could just cure this milk thing lol...

but on occassion he will ask for juice as long as it is reallyyyyyyyyyy watered down

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 00:30

CQ thats another thing he LOVES bo box ( sugar puffs) don't ask me where he got bo box from lol

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tethersend · 16/01/2010 00:42

How old is he?

Under 10ish, YANBU.

If he's 17, then YABU.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 00:48

Tether, he is 37 yrs old lol no seriously he is 2.3 yrs old

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tethersend · 16/01/2010 00:58

That's a pretty varied diet for a 2.3 yr old IME. My DD (1.2) has days where she will only eat 'gotgot' (yoghurt). I have no interest in force feeding her.

HairExtensions · 16/01/2010 01:02

I think you have my child!

YANBU

I spent a while getting really stressed out over DD2 eating or rather not eating. Weaning went really well and no problems until around 20 months when she was ill with viral infection (tummy bug)and was understandably off her food but she didn't seem to regain her appetite the same afterwards.

Now I don't force the issue and I would rather give her what she wants instead having her eat nothing at all. Luckily she does enjoy some veg and fruit.

Had the same issues with milk that you said but she seems to be coming out of that on her own and I do offer/encourage her to have juice and we make smoothies too.

It's not as if his health is at risk so tell folk to butt out IMO

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 01:03

tether, thats what i thought but i have had so many lectures that things have got to me tbh, as i say its not just the food its other things as well

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tethersend · 16/01/2010 01:06

I believe the worst thing you ca do is to force feed them- just keep offering and they'll eat some of it eventually.

Mind you, I think I take that approach because I am incredibly lazy.

Who is lecturing you?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 01:07

I was told on another forum that those foods are too fatty and contain a lot of salt....

and no his health to me doesn't seem to be affected, he is growing well....he is tall and not an ounce of fat on him, he is in 4yr olds clothes...actually maybe i should feed him what i want him to eat and he may slow down a bit lol

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 01:08

family and friends

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NewYearNewKnickers0nMaHead · 16/01/2010 01:10

That seems like a pretty good diet to me.

Im having enough problems getting dd to eat at all at the moment, apart from biscuits and cereal

Bottle - I dont agree, but at the end of the day, he is your child, your choice.

tethersend · 16/01/2010 01:16

I wouldn't worry. Change family and friends, and don't post on other forum. You sound like a great mum to me.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 16/01/2010 01:18

Thanks Tether, just added a new photo of him to profile....certainly doesn't look unhealthy lol

knickers, he is still my baby...

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 16/01/2010 06:27

YADNBU> That is a better diet than my 8.7 eats. I've got to the stage now that if I can get something down her neck it's got to be better than nothing. She too will go for days without food, but luckily will drink water and juice. Refuses milk unless we go and buy the straight out of the cow unpasteurised stuff that goes sour within a day or so.

crazycat34 · 16/01/2010 07:49

YANBU - a lot more varied than some children's diets.

If you want DS to eat more veg, you could always mash sweet potato/carrots/parnsips into his mash. It's what I did when my DS had fussy stages.

or mash it down into the gravy for stew, or put grated carrot in spagetti bolognaise. Plenty of tips for hiding veg if you're worried about it, but don't stress.

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