to expect DH to have some sort of opinion?????

[mum2all]

Its a bit daft I know.
Got invite in to take DD (3yrs) for swine flu jab and decided I wanted to do a bit of research before confirming the appointment as have heard mixed things about side effects versus benefits. Anyway, asked DH tonight what he though/how he felt about it and tried to start discussing it with him - his reponse was 'if GP has sent letter out she must need it', 'it must be safe or they wouldn't give it to kids' and my personal favourite 'does it really matter much either way'
Aaaaaaaaagh!
I just wanted some input, to go over the info we have and make a decision together, not to be left agonising over it on my own. Maybe I am overreacting to the whole jab thing, never mind the DH issue but just feel so frustrated.

He does have an opinion - you just didn't like what it was (i.e. if medical professionals have recommended it then get it done).

Your right I suppose Morloth (damn)looking back over it now. guess what I wanted more was for a chance to chat over it and reassure myself that its the right thing to do and maybe for him to talk with me about (and even dismiss) some of the scare stories

mum2all "Your right I suppose Morloth"

I usually am, just go with it .

I don't think there is any way of knowing what the right thing to do with the swine flu jab is, could go either way.

Actually i agree with OP. He doesnt have an opinion. His response - to me- is like avoiding a talk. These sort of people make you feel that your thoughts and emotions are dismissed. Even if they dont mean to.

mum2all I know how frustrating that is! My DH is the same about pretty much everything. My latest has been around applying for primary schools. Basically, if I hadn't done all the finding out, reading reports, visiting schools, getting the leaflet on the process etc etc, no application would ever have been made. His position on everything is, "Well I don't know, I've nerv done this before" - like I have!?!? Glad to know I'm not alone.

I've just realised after reading your post that my reaction after getting the letter about the jab was to e-mail a trusted friend to discuss it - I haven't even mentioned it to dh!

This is because I'm so used to him saying 'you decide' about everything. It gets on my nerves sometimes when I want him to take a bit more initiative and it weighs me down having to take responsibility for all the decisions.

At least you gave him the chance to discuss it though, which is more than I have!