To lie about my 2 DC

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Hello I have a second interview this afternoon for a job that I actually stand a chance of getting, but I haven't mentioned the fact I have 2DC.

The problem is I am young, and have given the impression that I'm looking for my first proper job since uni. I think if I was older and more experienced I don't think it would be a problem, but with this job I feel like the MD is giving me a chance to prove myself knowing I haven't worked much before, but then I feel so guilty that I'm not mentioning my children.

I know by law employers can't ask about children and so it is normal to not mention your family situation, but I just feel like I'm lying.

Do you think if I mentioned the children it would be the right thing to do or just completely stupid?

You have no reason to mention your children. Legally they can't ask you about it so there is no reason for it to come up unless you decide to tell them.

Just stick to answering the questions asked at interview as best you can.

Hope you get it

if they haven't actually asked surely that is not withholding anything?
Is it a full time job or part time?

I went for a part time job recently and they asked in the interview whether I would have another job to make the hours up to full time. I said no because I have a child. I didn't get the job.

They are not allowed to ask.
Point that out to them if they do.

Good luck!

Thank you everyone I know I'm not obliged to tell him just wanted to check that morally it was right.

Thanks again!

morally it may not be 100% right, but then morally it isn't right that your chances of getting the job may diminish if you tell them you have DC, even if legally they are not allowed to discriminate against you.
Does having children improve your ability to do the job? Is it an enhancement to your CV? if not, then I wouldn't mention it.

Its a full time job GetDownYouWillFall but starts at 9.30 so gives me a chance to sort out childcare in the mornings.

Plus my DP finishes at 2pm so would be responsible for pickups everyday and so its not like I'll be watching the clock having to leave dead on time every night.

Hopefully he hasn't looked on my facebook account!

You can adjust search settings on facebook so no one can find you unless they are already your friend.

Yes thumbwitch but sometimes I think if I was an employer I wouldn't want someone with two young kids having time off when they are ill etc so I can see why we are discriminated against.

Well anyway I wont mention it and see what happens.

Why do you feel that you have to tell them? Men don't feel guilty if they don't bring up the topic of children at a job interview!

Good luck, I hope you get it .

I think I've set it to only my friends can see me on facebook! I hope so.

I think what with this snow and us being late for school yesterday, I thought well imagine if I then had to go on to work and be even later.

I need to just be positive and hope for the best!

Thanks everyone I know I'm being silly.

I'll let you know how it went.

I agree with megapixels I am fairly sure my husband has never mentioned our three (soon to be four) children at an interview so I see no reason you need to especially if the job wont be affected by childcare arrangement.

FedUp - most people are late for work in the snow!

In interviews (as an employer) I make a point of telling everyone (men and women) "Legally we are not allowed to ask you about children, so I won't. If you want to mention it it, that's fine, but it has no standing on how we will assess you for this job".

That tends to put people at ease. My line manager gave me the same lines when he interviewed me, mnay years ago.

Good luck. Concentrate on yourself, and what you can bring to the job. It's pretty irreleveant by the sounds of it that you have 2 kids. You don't tell them that you like to watch X Factor or things like your next door neighbour often gets locked out because she is batty. Cos they are not really any of their business, and make no difference to how well you do your job.

Good luck - hope it goes well.

Thanks

If anyone is still there do you think what I'm wearing is okay?

On the first interview I wore a long black pencil skirt with a grey shirt tucked in. Today I'm wearing black trousers with a white striped shirt tucked in with a belt and black cardigan.

My DP reckons I'm not trendy enough! I don't think I need to wear a suit he said it was informal but I feel a bit like I'm in school uniform. I don't really have anything else smart to wear but don't want to buy anything if I just end up wearing it once.

Well it's too late to buy anything now!

Your outfit sounds fine! Good luck.

SOunds fine! I assume you're not teaming it with 4" scarlet killer heels? Although you could, that would "trend" you up a bit!

Good luck -hope it goes well, stay confident and relaxed and you should be fine.

I think if you feel confident in it then that's great and all you need. Your dp should keep his opinions to himself unless he knows there is time and money for you to buy something else. Fwiw I think you sound very trendy and I'm only 28. If you want to look more formal you could take the cardigan off but considering the weather I wouldn't bother. hth and GOOD LUCK!! Let us know how you get on!

YANBU, no man would have dreamed of mentioning it

As someone who has sat there interviewing people .... Don't worry about being trendy. The panel won't be looking for that in an outfit.

I like an effort to have been made. Clean shoes! I don't expect designer suits. If it's someone out of Uni I know the clothing budget may be tight. Neat, tidy and clean.

We've had people turn up for positions that are good career roles of £24k and come in jeans or converse boots for jobs that don't involve wearing denim.

It's shallow but I always think if you look presentable at an interview it shows you want the role.

Good luck.

I don't really like the outfit but as long as like you said I'm clean and presentable that's all that matters I suppose.

hope your interview went well!