to not want to drink someone else cheap crappy wine at a party

[smokinaces]

when I brought a bottle of semi decent stuff?

Party Saturday night. I only really drink wine, and arent amazingly fussy about brand but prefer something not too cheap. Got a good deal in Morrisons and got a bottle half price at £5 to take with me.

Normally I dont mind all bottles going in the fridge and having whatever is open - but the only other wine drinkers had brought this vinegar wine that was 2 bottles for £5 or something that tasted hideous.

I decided to stick to my own bottle - but the person who brought the cheap crappy stuff then had a glass of mine. No problem, but she downed it in one and then wanted another. I stopped her, joking she could drink her own cheap stuff if she was to drink like a fish.

Cue a couple of the girls getting really funny, taking the piss out of me and then hiding the bottle of wine I'd brought upstairs (which another friend found so we finished it anyway)

so was IBU to not want friend to down my decentish bottle and leave me with crappy stuff?!

well I agree with you
I hate cheap chardonnay , but at a party it is generally stick you bottle down and anyone can help themselves.
Well it is in my world.
I tend to drink whatever is there , going for the decent stuff first of course
so yabu

yabu to make a comment to the cheapy, nasty wine drinker. Personally I wouldn't have said anything (although I would have been narked).
I have asthma and find the cheap crap irritates it, while the expensive wine doesn't.

At any party I have the drink is just left out for people to help themselves to. I'd be a bit a bit miffed if you didn't want to share what you had brought tbh.

yabu - par for the course with parties and it's not too friendly to ask someone to stop drinking the wine that you contributed to the party (but I admire your gusto!).
In future, either take along cheaper stuff and hope someone else has got something better to offer or start hobnobbing with people who have better taste in wine

To not like cheap wine...YANBU
To behave the way you did...YABU

Next party then I might get drunk before I go so I dont care what rubbish is on offer then

I did share the bottle (1 glass to 1 friend, 1 to this other friend) - I think what I was most narked with was that she downed it in one - she more cared about getting pissed as quickly as possible than anything else and I was miffed she chose to do this with something that tasted ok, as opposed to the other stuff. I wont drink anything just to get pissed, it has to taste nice - where as a few of the girls are of the anything and everything school of thinking (by the dodgy cocktails they made too) as long as it gets them pissed quick.

Maybe next party I'll hide the wine until they're too pissed to want anything but shots and cocktails and then sit with it on my own

I usually take two bottles, put one in the fridge & keep hold of the other one

Once that's gone I'll drink any old rubbish quite happily.

I'd be irritated too, but probably not slag off someone else's wine or refuse them a glass of the good stuff - it does come across as rude & unfriendly I'm afraid. Sorry.

YABU and rude. If you are taking wine to a party you are contributing it to the host. Sometimes a bottle may not be opened, would you then take it home? You must learn to share.

You can buy wine for 5 quid a bottle?

but but but but I did share! You only get, what 4 glasses to a bottle?! and I'd given 2 away!!!

And even she confessed when we got there she'd bought cheap crap - I was only echoing her words

Raven - I might do your idea. In fact if I just neck from a bottle and not use a glass no one will be able to pull it from my grubby mitts!

but ok, ok, general consensus was I was BU. Darn it.

YABU

Yep smokin, take a bottle and a straw

Gawd I so know where you're coming from. I hate crap wine, and would rather drink a glass of shite veeeerrrrry slooooooooowly to wait for a decent bottle to be opened.

And drinking to get pissed is sad. There's no two ways about it.

YABU

Depends what kind of party...smaller parties (say 10 or so guests) I would say everything is shared but when you get into big wild parties with loads of people coming and going with various drinks, then I would say you ask if you want some of somebody elses booze, they should let you have some unless they are short or you are taking the piss. The key with that kind of party is to hold back something (doesn't matter how horrible or cheap) till the inevitable 4am booze shortage panic, then everyone bonds over the terrible cheap booze they are passing round

Oh, how I (don't) miss the days of wild days-long parties!

I could take some of those mini bottles and stash them in my (oversized) handbag, just bringing them out one at a time........ Or OrmIrian, use a straw on them

YABU not to have poured a huge glass of your own, refilled, necked, refilled then let her have the 'rest', by which time, you will not care that the only wine left is minging.

YANBU for saying something, i would not have been able to stop myself from a sarcastic comment

Pavlov, love your thinking.

If i take decent wine to a party, people know it is my wine and that they need to ask! I am happy to share, but i like to regulate it so i have some left! I also take two bottles tbh so i can 'share'. If it is a big party where i cannot control it, i take a lesser bottle which i don't mind getting trashed, but still enjoy myself. Or i hide the second bottle in the freezer if it is white, so it stays cold but no-one thinks to look there.

Also, i rarely drink white, mostly drinking sancerre or chablis. NO WAY will i share that with anyone other than DH or the host, so i tend to keep the bottle of red in my mits close by.

Not that i am possessive or anything!

(unless it is a dinner party, then all the wine is normally lovely so it goes with the rest)

What Nikita said.

Personally I have had enough of taking decent wine to a party/dinner it disappering into the kitchen and being offered undrinkable pish.

However, it's not worth the fallout from actually saying anything (other than to DH who is making the cat's bum mouth at the pish in his glass too) - I have just stopped taking nice wine.

YANBU to not want to drink cheap wine, nasty stuff

But

YABU for behaving the way you did. If you take wine to a party you take it to be shared.

If you are going to parties where all the wine except your own is cheap nasty vinegar then you are mixing in the wrong circles!

My friends tend to have a habit of drinking the wines in order on niceness so that we're too drunk to care by the time we've reached the horrible stuff. I haven't partaken in this since pg with dd and can't quite decide if it's appropriate to drink such vast quantities of wine on a night out now that I am a mother. hehe. I wont still be saying that next time I can find a babysitter I don't think!
So yabu for not having a better wine drinking policy - pavlov's also works - but yanbu for being annoyed that you had to drink horrid wine. Possibly are a bit unreasonable for saying something depending on if it caused embarressment.

This thread has made me want a party!