Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so they say

[mummybandage]

Had a awful week burnt my face ,shoulders have to wear two dressings have it changed every two days however people's attitude towards me have been everyone staring at me their thinking shall I ask what happend to her face, others just stare at me and say nothing whispering.
Its made me feel so unconfortable unattractive and very down I know its my face but cant help feel slightly worried will it scar?,I have a party to go to this weekend and cant wear make up what will people think and you know what im going to go and who cares what anyone thinks,
I know im still me but it has made me realise some people have things that are permanent they cant help having a disabilty and they cant change makes me realise im lucky really, and very we live in a very vain world.

If you feel you can, why not just look them in the eye and say "My face got burned."

What will people think? They'll think you've injured your face. Some people stare. Easy to say but not easy to do I know, but try to not take that inwards - if you know what I mean. They don't mean to be horrible and are no doubt sympathetic to your injury.

Hope it heals well and soon. Have you had any advice about how to minimise scaring?

My Dad bought me some bio-oil not sure when to apply it but probably when it all scabs?thank you for your response xx

I think you should ask the doctors for advice on that. It's very important that you know exactly what you are to do and when.

hi mummybandage i used to live my life unaware of how peoples attitude to disability was. my nephew was born blind in one eye has cattaracts and they also turn inwards. the amount of people that stare at him is unbelievable. children staring i can come to terms with they are just curious but most of the time it is adults who should know better. it does open your eyes up to the ignorance around you. just go to the party and enjoy yourself dont worry about other people staring its there problem there so small minded not yours

Don't put bio oil on it until it's well healed. In fact don't put anything on it except what the doc says. You have seen doc yes? they will also be able to advise on likelihood of scarring.

Hold your head up and look people in the eye, generally. People stare but it's not usually in a nasty way, they're just looking with their brains switched off. You do feel vulnerable and on display with this sort of thing though.

If you need to talk more about things now/later then I'm sure there are loads of people on here who will be happy to share their experiences.

I expect it will heal well though, things normally do, and if you're not in hospital I'm guessing the burn isn't that deep.

I don't think people mean to stare, and I'm sure they're sympathetic inside, as Heqet says.

ah, you poor thing mummybandage is it still painful?

I know how this feels as I have slight facial palsy. With luck your burns will heal well and wont scar. I agree the biooil shoudlnt be put on until the scabs fall off, but it is fantastic stuff. I know friends who have used it with great results.

Can't really offer any other advice or help but wanted to say something, and hope you soon feel better.

When I burned my arm with hot fat from the oven (not badly - I didn't need dressings etc) I used aloe vera gel (straight from the plant), comfrey ointment and calendula ointment and have no scar at all. Not sure which one of the three was most effective though. Have also read that smearing the contents of a vitamin E capsule over the area can help with healing, although I think you have to do it for quite some time. Perhaps this is the basis of bio-oil?

People will think
'ooh, that looks painful'
and
'I wonder what happened'
and
'poor mummybandage'
and
'oh, mustn't stare'
and
'now I've looked away and she'll think I mean something bad by it, but I only looked away cos I was embarrassed that I was staring'