Help from your husband

[IsabellaNewMum]

Hello to all mums.
My name is Isabella and a I had a baby in October :-)

I am from Spain, so I do not have my family here to help me.
So as you know we gain weigh thru pregnancy. I ask my husband to look after our child so I can go to the Gym. But he says he is scare to look after him. I am willing to teach him, but he only feels comfortable if I am home. I want to go back to my own-self and feel sexy again. I know he wants me to slim down too. So Am I asking for too much?

Thanks for reading.

Isabella

Well, I don´t think so!

I think it´s quite reasonable to ask a father to look after his son!

your dh is being ridiculous and has found a good excuse for being lazy. My dh doesn't " help" me, that would be absurd, they're his kids too and looks after them as do I.

And anyway, what does it mean "i'm too scared". What if you said the same? You're not any better qualified than him in childcare just because you gave birth. Demand your time away from the baby, for gym, shopping, meeting friends, whatever. He's a father and he's got to get used to it.

How old is the baby?

Actually I would sympathise with your husband if your baby is very little, I know my husband was nervous about being on his own with our first baby for more than 5 minutes when our baby was very young.

It's a bit annoying for you but if you explain about the nappies and the spare clothes and the bottles and describe it as sitting on the sofa watching TV apart from those things he should be OK.

Meant to say, no, you are definitely not asking too much!!!

Not at all a father should naturally want to bond spend time with their child, children although it can be daunting for new fathers and new mothers.
Its always scary at first you have this life thats depends on you but he helped create this life and he should help take care of your baby.
He will be fine believe me, just go for it tell him your going out leave him a your number.

Congratulations Isabella!

The sooner he gets used to being with his son, the better. He will love his son more, the more he does things for him, and his son will love to spend time with his father. It doesn't matter what you want to do with the spare time - and you need a break too.

If you cannot get him to help, some gyms have a creche attached. Our local leisure centre has a creche that you can leave babies and toddlers in for an hour or two while you are swimming or in the gym.

Thank you for all your advices, I feel better now that all of you think the same. My baby is 12 weeks. So I am going to talk to him and teach him all he needs to know. I know he loves his baby, but he needs to know him better.

Isabella