or just completely irriational and hormonal?

[BarbieLovesKen]

This...bloody...snow...

I know everyone is so fed up with it but I want to blame and/ or kill someone over it - Mother Nature, God, whoever... I am seriously pissed off.

Am 38 +2 weeks pregnant today and although I can technically get out i.e. not snowed in, it takes aaagggess to get anywhere in car and so much effort. Have to drive at approx 3 miles an hour.

I live in the middle of nowhere. Seriously. I live down a long, long avenue in a field, there are hills and fields surrounding me. The nearest shop is 10 miles away. Back "country" roads for a good few miles every side. Thats all fine and generally I love it but I am, in good weather approx 35 - 40 mins from my maternity hospital. In this weather? I dunno - but about half of the journey is on very bad, winding, frozen over, country roads where you meet a farking tractor every 5 minutes, usually when in a rush.

After weeks of hoping baby would come near due date am now praying he stays put a little extra.

The pipes have frozen over completely and we are entering day 4 with absolutley no water in the house and cant use the oil for fear the boiler will apparantly explode. I have been driving to my grannys daily for drums of water for teeth cleaning, handwashing, cups of tea, water for dogs etc.. and am lucky enough to be able to shower and bath myself and dd there so know I'm probably being unreasonable.

I love a bath at home at night cos helps me get some sleep and have been known to take 2 sometimes 3 a day in the last week or two to ease the pains of this pregnancy. Now I cant and am pissed.

Im upset because after months and months of nothing I think nesting finally kicked in last week and I got the majority of house clean and organised for baby's arrival. Now the floors and sinks and countertops are getting grubby and I am getting ridiculously upset about it. Am sitting here seething. Have even had a few tears over it which is silly I know. Am usually awful house keeper person btw. Know its probably hormones? I am actually scratching my head with annoyance - anyone ever do that??? and have bitten all my nails. Dont want to bring a baby home to this dirt.

We have 3 toilets and I have explicitly (sp?) asked dh to contain his shitting to one toilet only so I could stomach weeing in another but now see great big floaters in all three and cant flush and now if Im sick (MS has returned so do quite abit of this lately) I have to face peering down at his shit while retching.

I am so angry with someone but dont know who..

Im being nuts, arent I?

Well, a bit.

Get someone in to help.

Move somewhere sensible.

yanbu by virtue of pregnancy pass

I think it's entirely reasonable to feel overwhelmed by all that!! Anyone you could stay with for a couple of days to ease it a bit?

Poor you!
Soubnds grim.
GO and stay somewhere with flowing warm water.

yanbu - but why don't you use some of the water from your grans to flush the toilets??

YANBU - lal123 makes a good point.

Right, what time's he home? Because he needs to deal with the shit, immediately. That isn't acceptable.

You need to get your water situation sorted...is there nothing that can be done?
Running water is something I consider to be essential!!

YANBU. At all.

Is there somewhere else you can stay?

Do you have, or can you borrow, a portaloo? The kind you'd take camping? Might be better and more hygeinic than just not flushing.

Ohh god poor you. YANBU I get like that at the end of pregnancy but not bothered about house work at other times. If you can go and stay somewhere else for a few nights I think you would feel much better. Meanwhile DH could sort out the floors, toilets etc.

oh thank you all. Feel a little more justified now.

I have flushed the loos yesterday with drums of water but it takes a shocking amount of water with toilet paper etc.. to get rid, thats why I asked him to confine toilet habits to just one. It took 3 trips to my grandmothers to get enough water - each taking about 40 mins (but thats return in all fairness)

Am worried about hygiene of it all tbh. Yuck.

Think your right. Think I might pack up dd and move down to my grans for a couple of nights, shes so lovely and know would love to have us, bless her. DH has just said hed stay here to mind my dogs etc. He has been out most of the evening trying to defrost pipes but not working, there apparantly is a slow thaw on, I hear but needs to get to 4 degrees to start properly and weather forcast says that wont be til second half of week, still thats only a day or two away.

My mother has kindly offered to give me her house key so I can use her washing machine tomorrow as its really piling and I need to wash bedding etc for new baby so am beginning to feel better.

Thank you all for suggestions. x

Much sympathy OP. I agree with others that it's really not acceptable. Can you go and stay with your gran until the pipes are sorted? You don't need the stress.

(And your dp really should have been more thoughtful about his shit spreading)

hmm portaloo does sound like a really good idea...

I obviously would much rather stay at home with my own things/ own bed etc.. and not having to pack up but think it would be better all round as I'm getting ridiciously/ OTT upset about it here..

Thank you MrsSawdust

at inconsiderate shit spreading..

I think you should take yourself to your mother's tomorrow and spend however long it takes there getting your washing done so you have one less thing to worry about.
Take your gran up on her offer and stay with her.
While you are away, your DH needs to GET THIS SORTED.
You are in the last weeks of your pregnancy, this needs sorting for the sake of your stress levels, not to mention your family's health!
Where in the country are you? Temps are apparently rising over the next few days.
You'll look back on this and laugh one day

Thanks abbierhodes am actually in Ireland but things are looking up.

I ended up going to my grans late last night again for water and managed to flush out two of the toilets and disinfect and wipe down my countertops. Just as well as I spent most of the middle of the night with my head stuck in one (sorry tmi!).

As I had mentioned we couldnt turn on the oil so lit a big fire in the stove in kitchen downstairs but wasnt enough to heat upstairs in this weather. Borrowed blow heaters for dd's room and wrapped her up in loads of extra blankets but was still worrying throughout the night that she would be cold in this weather.

Got stupidly, OTT upset about the whole situation again this morning and completely overwhelmed that I couldnt get things "right" in house for the baby. It has gone up to 3 degrees over night.

Had to bring dh to work, was gone for an hour and am happy to report that by the time I got back I have running water!!! Have to give it an hour or two before can start really running it e.g. turning on washing machines and dishwasher but am ridiculously happy!!!. Can have heat now too.

Thanks for listening to my stupid moan!!!!.