To feel surplas to requirements

[lucyellensmumagain]

DD is daddy's little princess - and its lovely, but i don't get a look in - with either of them. I honestly feel as if i have been alone in the house all weekend. They have been playing games and make believe all weekend. They are upstairs now playing beauty and the beast - DP asked me to play with DD while he made a cup of tea (board game) and we were playing nicely - he said when he made his tea "oh its ok Im playing now"

Just asked DD to make lemon cake with me - nup, not interested. DP is grumpy with me over something and hardly speaking.

I might as well be here on my own - oh, apart from the fact that they will want me to cook their dinners (one veggie one not - so two then) get their clothes ready for tomorrow.

This is a gripe about DP really not DD, she is only FOUR, but i do feel that DP is encouraging her to push me away. He has moaned that i have spent too much time on the computor lately - fair point - so haven't turned it on today, until now - now i know WHY i do it, because otherwise i would be twiddling my thumbs

ah, maybe im just invisible then

"DP is grumpy with me over something and hardly speaking."

Bigger ishoos. That's what comes across here.

oh no, hes just sulking because i told him something he didn't want to hear about his work. nobhead

Perhaps more effort to join in?

Are you on your own with your daughter all week?

If so, use this time for yourself, or make plans to get out & about as a family.

i think taht is a fair comment diddl, but its become like a habit i suppose - we were going to be out and about yesterday but the weather was too foul for sledging and now today the bastard snow has melted

Do you manage to do much with your daughter in the week?

Is there an activity that you can do once/twice a week that is special just for the two of you?

If your daughter is happy playing with her dad I think that is lovely, but does he try to include you when you want to join in?

she is at school but we do lots, yes

O-M-G!!! I CAN spell, but you would never think it!! SurplUs!!

Personally I would take the time to relax and do things that I wanted to do and make the most of your time with her in the week. If you feel that your partner is encouraging her to push you away though then that needs to be dealt with. Do you know why he would do that?

You definitely need to tell your DP that you feel he is pushing you away. He shouldn't be making you feel that way. And it's easy enough for him to change things; all he needs to do is back you up a bit for example he could have come down and started making lemon cake with you and dd then perhaps made himself scarce when she was busy. There are ways he could try at least. And withdraw your consent to being frozen out of the games but expected to come up with dinner and packed lunches - just don't do it. Tell DP "i need you and DD to stop playing at 6pm, you can make the dinner while I do lunches and get clothes ready". Don't be a mug!

Having said that it is great he spends so much time playing with her and fantastic for her holistic development to have two such involved and loving parents

he isn't lazy cirrhosis - well, he is about housework! but he does have to be a disney character from the time he gets up and he has to put her to bed everynight too, she wont have me unless DP late home - i enjoy that. I feel quite guilty actually as he is still putting her to bed now But then he wants us to go over estimates for work - booo