To ask the midwife to come here

[fernie3]

I started typing this in pregnancy but changed my mind to put it here since it really is more of an AIBU really!

I was supposed to see the midwife on friday but ended up having to cancel the appointment because I have been feeing so ill with sickness. I am now 10 week pregnant and have the worst sickness I have had in any of my pregnancies. I am being sick multiple times everyday and eating makes no difference ( It helped to stay full in my previous pregnancies). I am constantly feeling sick to the point of waking up at night because of it. My husband has actually snapped out of his depression and sent me to bed for the weekend because he was so worried (a blessing in disguise?!?) which is incredible. I feel shaky and it is a struglle to even walk the kids to school. I have no even managed to pull a muscle in my tummy this morning so I am miserable .

The midwife wants to see me to check my blood pressure because it was high last time she saw me so I am not sure how urgent this is.It is a good 40 minute walk to the surgery OR a little bud ride follwed by a 10 minute walk (suregy for some reason built out of town). I would have to take my youngest two children with me and sadly have no family or friends to ask for help ( )

Would it be totally unreasonable to ask the midwife to come to the house to check it? is that to lazy?

Iam at the point today of actually calling up the hospital today but probably wont bother because I know theres not much they can really do!.

so many mistakes in that sorry! bus not bud for example.

I would ring her and ask her advice.

You do know that people can't just snap out of depression don't you? Maybe he is just worried about you and is hiding how he feels.

you have my sympathies. I had terrible sickness in my second pregnancy and was admitted to hospital due to dehydration. You may be suffering from this, so you need your ketones in urine checked, so I would ring them up and ask to do a house call. They obv do this post natally so it hopefully should not be a problem

Can't dh drive you to your nearest a&e today to have it checked maybe?

If you are feeling that bad you need to see a Doctor for anti-sickness meds and/or admission iv fluids. If your are dehydrated these will make you feel so much better.

hi thanks.

FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010 I didnt mean that I though he was suddenly better just that he has actually got out of bed and really been nice actually thinking about someone else for the first time in a long time. He may be hiding how hes feeling but at least its a start.

I think I might phone up today, it woul dhave to be the labour or maternity ward though ad the early pregnancy bit isnt open - is that ok or would they tell me to get lost??

We dont have a car but the hospital is actually nearer to us that the doctors surgery so a taxi would be possible if there was a need to.

I just wanted to emphasise - as someone who suffered awful ms the whole way through pregnancy and found it tough going. all the very best and I hope you get a house call.

You can ask the midwife to come to you, of course. If she does come she will check your urine for signs of ketones which will indicate how your body is coping with the sickness. Depending on the weather round your way and her workload it may be a while before she comes to see you. However, if your sickness is as bad as you report you may need admitting to the hospital for fluids and anti-emetic medication so you will need to think about childcare arrangements should that happen.

Of course YANBU.

Echoing others thoughts on possible need for admission to hospital due to hyperemesis.

Try to get a consultant to prescribe you ondansetron, which is the miracle drug in stop vomiting - much more affective, on average, thank the others.

YANBU. I asked mine to come out to me for my appointment next week because I am 33 wks with a broken ankle.

they are out and about doing house calls to the mums of new babies, so I don't see any reason why they can't come to expectant mums in exceptional circumstances.

I hope she is reasonable about it.

Oh fernie I know how shit it is

Hope you get to see a dr today. You really do need some meds. When you get them they should take the edge off at least.
Get all the help you can.

, I've had hyperemesis gravidarium through ALL of my pregnancies, anti-emetic tablets do help, you will need help, and your urine needs to be checked for ketones, if they are bad you may need admitting to be put on a drip for dehydration. And no, YANBU wanting the midwife/ doc to come to you, if you're anything like me, it will be hard to manage a bus journey when you are trying not to throw up. for you and hope you feel better soon. Metclopramide(sp?) worked best for me.

You have my sympathies. I was sick at least 10 times a day from the day I got a positive test until the day ds was born - was puking into a bucket as I was being wheeled into theater!

Am very envoius of posters who got help/medication though, I got nothing. At midwife/doctors appointments, they just dismissed me, even when I was being sick into a bag in front of them.

I lost 4 stone during pg due to not being able to eat/hold anything down and one doctor told me I was too fat anyway so it didn't matter (I was 16 stone when I fell pregnant, but that's not the point, is it?) I even caught a midwife 'doctoring' my weight on my records at an app to make it look like I hadn't lost any. My doctor wanted to refer me for counseling as I wasn't 'coping' with pregnancy when I went to him crying about how much I was being sick, but again the sickness was not addressed at all. I must have been severely dehydrated, I was bringing up so much water and drinking hardly any and felt like death all the way through, I was in bed the entire pregnancy. Makes me so angry that no one would take any notice of me.

Sorry for hijack, but I had no idea that I could be given anything to stop it, it was 8 months of hell. (7 years ago and its one of the reasons have been too scared to fall pg again).