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So angry and upset advice please

5 replies

Teenytiny · 09/01/2010 18:24

Hi there was looking for some advice i dont know where to start i feel like crying
and tbh so does my OH too

Ok My OH is a manager of a shop, he has 4 young staff (all between the ages of 17, 18, 19)
We went away over new year to his parents in Ireland everything at work was fine. we came back on wednesday and he returned to work as normal . he came home less than 2 hours later and told me his area manager told him that three of his employees had did written compaints about him. all were lies he was told what they accused him of and also said they didnt want to work with him. Now Everything they are accusing my OH of doing/saying is all complete lies i know my OH isnt what theyre making him out to be. so were both really angry and upset at thease accusations. so he was sent home and till monday hes been moved to another store and on monday he has a meeting with his area manager and the big boss to see whats gonna happen now. its just completly out the blue and my OH thinks they have made this up because he told them he may not have the job for everyone after new year. We are both gutted and OH cant sleep either

He has a witness to go with his monday not sure who would be the best person to go with? apparently he can take legal action against them for all the lies ect. but we are both scared he will loose his job over this its horrible

Apparently one of the girl acussed my oh of calling her a junkie because shes a diabetic. the other said my oh called her a slut in front of customers and gay. said she was an idiot and the guy said that my oh walked in on one of the girls when he knew they wear changing their top amoust other stupid untrue allagations.

any help would be great xx

OP posts:
OldLadyKnowsNothing · 09/01/2010 18:29

Try posting again in the "Employment" forum.This is the wrong place.

MadamDeathstare · 09/01/2010 18:31

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

biggirlsdontcry · 09/01/2010 18:31

oh dear , i can see why you are both upset i really think your oh needs legal advise tbh , the fact that there's three of them against your OH is not going to be easy for your partner to prove himself , hope someone comes along soon with some helpful advise ,

spanky2 · 09/01/2010 18:38

The citizens advice bureau will be able to help as well.

OneOf8 · 09/01/2010 18:44

Was it a disciplinary, or investigation meeting? (there is a difference if you want me to explain)

They should have confirmed exactly what the allegation is and have some form of evidence.

This will allow you to prepare a response. Take the time to respond to each allegation backing up with evodence if possible.

It is a difficult situation as they (the staff) have written statements - which is potentially what the employer is using as evidence - but this could just be vindictive actions to keep their jobs.

Depending on the roles, size of co etc, really will depend on what happens next.

If you can seek support from ACAS or CAB (I recommend ACAS as CAB is luck of the draw the "quality" of advice.

As for person supporting them/witness to the meeting, as the co. have stated he can bring someone he can either take a colleague (someone he trusts to keep the meeting detail confidential, as don't want someone stirring when they are supposed to support) or if he is a member of a union, he can request a representative from the union.

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