to create a spin off - do you change dirty nappies in any room other than the bathroom/nursery?

[Jackaroo]

I don't. I owned up to changing wet nappies in the bassinette on a flight, but am constantly dumbfounded by friends/relatives setting up a stall in my living room (or next to them on a seat in a coffee shop) and carry on merrily with pooey nappies, despite my offers of changing tables, wipes, sinks for hands etc etc.

Thsi was touched on briefly in the airline thread, but it really gets to me on a weekly basis, so am just wondering if IABVU, when usually I'm the most slovenly of people.

I had a lovely bag that contained all you needed for a day out and also turned into a changing mat. But I'd always ask where was best to change nappies and certainly, nowadays, would give visitors a choice of places - all warm and with washbasins! Poo has never bothered me but in the years that have elapsed since I had children in nappies, I've got less thrilled by the idea of my carpets being pooed or widdled on. I'm also less thrilled by nappy contents appearing at the same time as the tea tray! But there's a huge difference between little baby poo and much older child poo and, of course, other people's children's poo!

Changing on the living room floor doesn´t mean you don´t wash your hands!

In my house I change anywhere, although I would go into another room if we had guests.

At someone elses house I would use the bathroom.

Out and about I would use either my car or a baby changing room.

When DS was tiny I used to change him on the changing stand in his bedroom - when he got bigger it was always in the bathroom, mostly because we use cloth anyway and that's where the nappy bin is, but also because he usually gets wet-washed, not just wet-wiped.

I have changed him in the car a couple of times when out for the day; and in the kitchen when we were moving into our new house and we had no bath (sink's bigger in the kitchen).

In other people's houses I always ask to use the bathroom for changing purposes, never been a problem. Some friends and my sister are quite happy changing their sprogs on the living room floor/sofa; not my choice though.

Our house we have mats in childrens bedrooms and living room.

Other people's houses I ask where I should change baby.

When babies BF it's not too bad with the poo but once they are producing stinkers I would always change a poo in the bathroom/toilet if in someone elses house. Apart from anything else by that age they are starting to wriggle and poo on the floor/carpet not good.

Cafes etc WTF changing baby where people are eating is not on by any stretch of the imagination!

myhandslookold - do you really find just talking about poo 'gross'?

Same as others - anywhere as home and then asking when out and about.

It has changed though - with my pfb it was always in the bedroom/nursery but subsequently has turned into anywhere with the next dc.

myhands - why the need to be sooo discreet as to not even ask where you can change the baby? That seems rather extreme!

At home we use a towel and changing mat on our bed, all the nappies live in a big drawer in the divan base. We did use the living room at lot when DS was little.

At other's houses I would just do whatever they do tbh - either changing table or a mat on the floor in a bathroom or bedroom or living room. When friend's come here I'm quite happy for them to change on the living room floor, or to go upstairs - whichever they prefer.

I have always used a mat on the living room floor, downstairs loo right next door for hand washing

i would be furious at anybody changing a baby of any age anywhere but the bathroom in my house

I don't understand why anyone would ask if is ok to change the nappy in the living room. Whats the reason of not going to the bathroom? Is the bathroom in the fields, 2 kilometres away?

I guess if you do ask the hostess will say 'yes fine' just out of embarrasment (;).

Ask where to change baby as people might have eg upstairs bathroom and separate toilet/s, and might have a preference/think where you might be more comfortable etc. Or might say to use their changing table if they have one.

If they have a downstairs toilet they might wonder WTF you are doing barging round the upstairs of their house with a discrete baby.

Plus conditions change. At parents house I go upstairs to bathroom BUT it's bloody freezing there and so the other day she was changed in front of open fire in living room (was a BF baby poo) - my mum thought it was too cold in the bathroom.

Asking deffo most polite thing to do in my book.

In my own house, I've always used a changing table in the bedroom but that's mainly because I have back problems so it saves my aching bones. In other peoples houses I always use the bathroom - I'd never ever dream of changing a nappy, particularly a poopy one in someone elses living room/kitchen etc. i can't believe the number of people I've seen changing a crappy nappy and then not washing their hands either. Minging!

Post natal group when we all had same age babies and met at each others houses it was anything goes changing wise. People doing it on the roof, stairs, under sofa, you name it

Oh wow giggles a lot. My sister was always changed in the living room at home at the time - it wouldn't have occurred to anyone that she should be taken to the bathroom (well until she was potty training). Must remember this thread for when I have kids ie. people have different views about appropriate nappy changing places.

At home I change on my knee or on our bed. Or in the sitting room. Or bathroom.

When visiting, well it's only polite to ask where's best for a nappy change. I also offer to take dirty nappy home with me.

So there.

I generally do it in the bathroom because it's near a sink.

I'm always careful with handwashing after as up to about the age of 18 months, many new babies carry C-difficile in their 'excretions' - didn't used to know that!

Mind you it's also supposed to be commonplace in maternity wards and birthing centres, for some reason...no idea why.

I would be quite lackadaisicalabout it otherwise.

same as Maxybrown bathroom isnt physically big enough to change the baby in. at someone elses i would use their bathroom though. as long as big enough.

My home then wherever i fancy.

Others home, ask where, go and do the deed.

When out i prefer car seat/boot to skanky loos/changing rooms for the most part.

Train like plane where i am or a quiet spot anyway from people (where we try to sit fulltime anyway).

Until ds was a few months old I changed him on the living room floor (on a changing mat) then when he got bigger I only really changed him in his bedroom on the changing table. I wouldn't dream of doing it in someone elses living room, I would always ask where I should change him. I have had friends change their toddlers in my living room and deposit the dirty nappy in my kitchen bin.

Look at that, you come back from trying to go to sleep to find that someone got upset.. Poster on the bus with simultaneous poos - I know, it's horrible when stuff like that happens - I hope from my OP you will see that I'm not that retentive , and definitely changing them quickly is the way to go.

Don't know who would do otherwise tbh (oh yes, apart from the mother at playgroup who left her 3 yr old walking around in pooey underpants to make a point to him )

I used a bed with change mat or floor with DS1 as didn't have much room and a dodgy back.

With DS2 I got a table because I wanted him out of reach of DS1.

Good point about being too oblique with the message. I should be more obvious. But they wouldn't have to go upstairs - as with many houses Down Under, we're all on one floor - so it's a matter of, ooh, 12 steps to get to bathroom or nursery (and all hte same ambient temperature ).

Right, must go and search for a cure for nipple thrush pain before it sends me completely mad.

i agree that when out, it's nicer to do it somewhere discreet like maybe on a rug on the grass, in summer, or on the rear seat of your car with door open if nowhere else available.

I have an intense dislike of public toilets and changing rooms, mainly because there are people using them who have zero respect for others and zero hygiene intelligence. I prefer not to share with them!

My dd1 puts her toothbrush in a toilet bag.

Apparently poo fragments where found on toothbrushes that are in a jar/etc in the bathroom.

I believe that by putting the toilet lid down before flushing, that may well be avoided

But I prefer to do mine in the kitchen anyway!

When the Mythbusters did that experiment the one in the kitchen also had poo on it. There is poo everywhere!

I have a friend who's 2-year-old always seems to poo at my house and she INSISTS on changing him in the sitting room AND IT IS GROSS and in the past dh and I have ended up cowering in the garden to escape the smell of SHIT IN MY SITTING ROOM.

I have been really direct with her and said that I don't want poo in my sitting room, please change nappies in the bathroom which is lovely and big and warm and has a changing mat in it, but her ds doesn't want to have his nappies changed in there so he runs out with a shitty arse and she ends up doing him in the sitting room anyway.