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AIBU?

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...to think my boss has been unfair?

54 replies

Undertone · 08/01/2010 17:26

I work at a small marketing company of 20 people. I was hired in August 2008 at the same time as another chap (let?s call him G) ? both roles were entry-level (Account Executive), although I already had a year?s experience as an Account Executive at another marketing company. Very quickly I took on a lot of responsibility and gained the trust of the senior management. He, on the other hand, needed baby-sitting through even basic office skills. I am a bit of an Uber-Competitive Swotty Mc Teacher?s Pet, so I felt pretty chuffed that I was leaving this guy in my dust cloud.

I was working under an Account Manager who left in June 2009. The company didn?t replace him, I took over his role, and a couple of months later I brought up in my review that I would like to be promoted to Account Manager (I mean, I was doing the job already ? and very well at that, FFS). Senior management said they would promote me if I proved before the end of the year that I could do x, y and z.

In those five months I worked like a fiend to step up to their challenge. G, on the other hand, was often (3-4 times a week) in 10+ minutes late. He?s one of those laid-back but still-arrogant types. I know I out-performed him in every respect. He didn?t even make any kind of secret about the fact that he was actually thinking of quitting and starting another career.

In December I was told that I?d done a great job, and that as of January 1st would be an Account Manager ? I would even get an 8% pay rise. I had a lovely Christmas celebrating this with my family. It had been a tough end of the year ? plenty of late nights at the office. I was very proud of myself.

So ? I came back to the office this Monday. The MD sat us all down for a chat. At the end he said he had an announcement he was pleased to make; he was promoting me and G to Account Managers!

Later that day I took my line manager (who had been involved in the decision-making) aside for a quiet chat. I said I was confused ? I didn?t know G wanted to be promoted. Line manager said that he thought G had worked hard ? why not promote him? Now at this point I got a bit upset. As far as I was concerned, I had only been promoted because I had been working hard towards specific set goals for a long time. I didn?t see why he deserved it. It made me feel like all that work was for nothing. Line manager got irritated that I was upset, and honestly couldn?t see why I was complaining ? didn?t I just get given the promotion I was after?

So come on ? AIBU to be angry? Or should I just shut up and sit down?

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nancydrewrocks · 09/01/2010 12:44

Trouble is if the OP has been working as hard and conscientiously as she says she has how on earth does she have the time/inclination to adequatley judge what G has been doing?

You have to remember you are not impartial and don't manage him so it is very difficult for you to properly ascertain what his performance is like.

If the OP said that she was continuously covering for him/rectifying his mistakes/picking up the slack then maybe I could see her point but the problem seems to be that he is a bit late occassionally and that he has claimed he is not too bothered about his career progression (which is exactly the sort of things people say to equals when desperately trying to impress the boss and get ahead).

Maybe your bosses believe him to be excellent at his job and had always intended on promoting him, but felt you needed the extra push hence the setting of specific goals.

Either way it doesn't really matter - you have your promotion and if it really irks you that he also has one remember that people who wing it always get caught out in the end.

zippyzapper · 09/01/2010 12:51

to the op - if you don't like your situation then change it - if you can't change it then leave.

mayorquimby · 09/01/2010 14:52

yabu and petty. You are not in charge of promotions and are not privvy to the decision process they took to arrive at their choices of who to promote. If managment decided that it was in the companies interest to promote this guy then that is the beginning,middle and end of it. Going to your line manager and getting upset over someone elses good fortune and promotion is entirely out of order.

MadameDefarge · 09/01/2010 15:08

YABU. Perhaps he is one of those people who produces fabulous work after seeming to have faffed around for ages?

If you are a hard-working type,this can seem unfair, but its the results that count.

And in any enterprise, the overall good of the company and decisions pursuing to that is not in your baileywick.

Ignore, and prove yourself on your terms.

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