Memorial in London

[Jux]

So it's forecast for lots of heavy snow all over the south of England over the weekend.

We live in Devon. I have to be in London on Sunday evening for my brother's memorial gig on Sunday evening.

DH and I were going to drive down on Sunday, stay in a hotel and drive back on Monday. It is major roads all the way.

DH has a bit of a cold and is feeling a bit shitty today.

DH is now saying he won't drive down. He won't go on the train either.

I am pissed off. This is a very big thing to me. I have not really asked him for any support over this whole ghastly time.

AIBU? I am too upset to tell.

and I'm so sorry for your loss.

I would be so angry with my OH if he refused to come with me, one way or another. He's being really unfair.

On reflection, I'll probably have more fun without him. He hates London.

I've booked my ticket now, off tomorrow. If he turns up on Sunday I'll faint.

If you, as his sister, can't reasonably get there (ie. with the person you want there with you, as support), then (a) why is no one looking at postponing the gig out of principle and (b) if you've got travel issues, you can't be the only people due to attend who are experiencing similar isues, so why not postpone until later in the year so all the people who want to be there can get there?

Maybe I'm missing an important point?

Postponing was completely out of the question - the club had given us the night for free, all the bands were donating their services for free etc. Far too much organisation was required for it to be possible to change it.

As it happens, it was a fantastic night. DH didn't come and I didn't miss him (that's bad, isn't it?). I had the kindness and support of pretty well everyone there, even the staff of the club - the bar staff, the waitresses, everyone. We raised a large amount of money for a musicians charity and it was all wonderful.

I am back home now, and dh hasn't asked even one question about it.

Jux, don't know the background to this, there has to be more. I am incredulous that your dh hasn't mentioned it.

Jux I am so glad you went and that it went so well. I hope things improve with your DH. I don't know any of your circumstances but is there something 'wrong' with your DH do you think? I can't believe he is so unsupportive.

I am so pleased that the eveening went well Jux, and that you had loads of support there. I am just sorry that your husband wasn't able to support you too.