About MIL's birthday

[maswera]

DP can never remember other people's birthdays. I can't believe that at 36 he can't remember his own mother's birthday (although he does know it's coming up). I have it on my computer - but feel like if I tell him when it is we will soon descend into me having responsibility for remembering all his family's birthdays, and I really don't want to go there... (I hate the 'woman automatically responsible for remembering birthdays/sending cards/buying presents' thing)

So AIBU to not tell him when his mum's birthday is? If I don't tell him he will probably ask his dad (but he might forget that as well)

And if he doesn't remember between now and then, AIBU to send her a birthday message just from me?! Am very not sure about this, but I really wouldn't want her to think we hadn't bothered/were completely thoughtless. Hmm, really can't work out how I could do that and not look like a twat... any suggestions welcome!

Oh dear. My DH always forgets his dad's birthday and I just can't memorise the date so can't really help. But do I care? No, to be brutally honest

Will try to be better after reading some of your posts on here...

I'm the one who always forgets these things, my OH always remembers. I always feel mortified if I forget, but I really can't seem to keep this stuff in my head. I have set up reminders on my calendars, and write down the dates, but still... I'd be really upset if I thought my OH knew about a birthday I was due to forget, and didn't tell me.

I would remind him but leave the responsibility of gift and card buying to him. Don't send a card just from you that would be a bit petty and spiteful.