Have a job which I work one day mil is helping out, which im grateful of,sil has suddendly started to plan the one day with mil and my kids and hers im not happy

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she normally does not bother, and is extremally jealous of my relationship and kids with fil and mil things have been akward especially when we are together with her bitching behind my back, her shouting at my kids and a incident that I would never trust her around my children im so upset and feel this has all been done on purpose.why am I so upset about leaving them and going to work now.I can assure you im not jealous of them spending time together I dont want her near my kids.

If you don't want SIL near your kids then you have to tell MIL this. Be prepared however for her to say that she is no longer interested in looking after your kids.

Is your SIL your MIL's daughter or DIL
If DIL you could try being diplomatic & honest if Daughter try and find out what MIL wants

Can Dh talk to his mum about this at all?

then you need to talk to your MIL.

i think if you're happy leaving your children with MIL then you have to trust her implicitly to look after them and to make the right decisions. you can't tell her where to go and what to do with them

if you have such a huge problem with your SIL that you think your MIL cannot look after them well enough with her around then tell her, and find someone else.

Thank you everyone your advice is greatly appreciated,especially you thisisyesterday as alot of what you say makes alot of sense and mil knows how I feel and agrees with me.

Its Mil dil they understand how I feel and know whats happened and would never allow my children to be in a vunerable postion Im upset as it feels she is controlling my kids and I should have a say they are my kids after all however I do trust mil and will have to bite my tonque.

I do have my parents to ask occasionally and this arrangement is not for ever.although being a mum its hard leaving your kids any mum would agree xx. thank you everyone for listening.