I moved to another city last year and was fortunate to move to a small road of only a few houses. My immediate neighbours are all couple with children, most of whom have children in classes a few years up from DD2. I was made to feel very welcome and we all used to socialise together. I have rarely been able to invite any of them back to my house becuase DH has a degenerative bone condition and sleeps at all hours of the day due to pain and is often asleep on the sofa which makes things awkward but I have explained this to these women. Also DH feels as if they are "not his type of people" so refuses to socialise with them meaning I miss out on all the nights where it is couples.
2 months ago I was able to invite them over for a meal as DH was driving to Wales to stay with family for a long weekend but when I texted them I only heard back from one of them who was unable to come. Nothing from the rest. I also invited one of them to come to see a kids play at the local theatre last week as I knew her DD would love it as would my two. Again I heard nothing. Not even a no thanks. I still get invited to the gatherings where everyone goes but never to the smaller ones where only a few go and often have to sit and watch as some of the women go into the house a few doors down and sit in the front garden with wine and a bbq knowing I have not been invited.
I know it is natural that some friendships would be stronger than others but I do feel upset about this whole thing. I don't know many other people here - this is my social network and I feel as if they are gradually trying to distance themselves from me. I also irrationally maybe? blame DH thinking that perhaps if he made the effort more when he is feeling ok then perhaps everything would be better.