to be upset about this happening to my child

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basically an hour after 1 dropped DS1 and DS2 off to school I recieved a call from DS1s teacher saying there had been an accident and DS1 had been kicked in the mouth by the girl in his class and one of his front teeth was now pushed back.

Poor DS1 was really upset and I am just at a loos of how a child could accidentally kick another child in the mouth while sitting in the reading corner.

To make matters worse DS2 had a nasty bite on his cheek from a cild in his class which took a week to go away in November.

AIBU to think these kind of incidents seem too frequent as my kids have only been at this school since september which is hardly 1 term.

It could be just an accident, kids get hurt all the time. Did you ask the teacher how it happened.

The girl could have tripped, if he was sitting on the carpet its not unfeasible that she would have accidentally kicked him.

I hope he feels better soon, that does sound sore.

You could ask the teacher if she/he saw it or is just going on what the child said that kicked you DS1 to be honest that must of been on hell of a kick to push his tooth back.

With the biting, you can ask about there behaviour policy and what they do if this kind of thing happens.

Unfortunatly these things do happen and its not nice when its to your own child, if your worried speak to there teachers or even the head.

No she didn't trip the teacher didnot see the actual even happen but according to the girl she was tryingtoo kick off he shoes and accidentally caught DS1 in the face. DS1 said she did it on purpose but it is practically his word against hers. But to be honest I am unsure as to why she was trying to kick her shoes off in the first place.
I know accidents happen, if he had bumped into smeone or fell in the playground or something I guess I would have been less annoyed to be honest. I have never wrapped my kids up in cotton wool but this seemed like a really hard kick to push back a tooth which was not even loose.

The biting was also unprovoked and this child is known to bite other children as well though never on the face before. The school dealt with it by having a word with the mother of the child and trying to be even more vigilant when he seem in a 'biting mood'

I have a meeting with the head next week and speak to him regarding these issues.

I think children almost always think it was on purpose. Trying to kick off her shoes does sound plausible.

How old are they?
Should she have known better?

If his tooth has been pushed back you need to have him seen by a dentist.

like you say your DS1 word against hers, so its a tough one. Hope his tooth is ok.

With the biting if they`ve spoken to the mother and he continues to keep biting more needs to be done not just keeping an eye when hes in a "biting mood" what if they dont see it? Is there something that sets this child off for instance? My son got bitten a while back and my god ive never seen anything like it it was awful, it was a friends child who did it so it was delt with very quickly. Good luck!

You`ve made the appointment so outline all your issues with the head.

I would be going apeshit over the biting thing TBH

Why was the girl trying to kick off her shoes??

of course you're upset but accidents do happen. Shoes get kicked off at funny angles by small children who just don't consider the potential consequences. Were the incidents noted in the accident book ? Has ds been to the dentist and is it a milk tooth or permanent one

The children in DS1 class are year1 so really should know better than trying to kick off shoes in the reading corner (I think). As far as I know she just wanted to kick her shoes off they were not changing shoes or anything. It was not the shoe flying off that hit DS1 in the face LIZS it was her foot with shoes still on.

I have already taken him for an emergancy dentist appointment this afternoon and the dentist said he wanted to wait for the swelling to go down around the lips and mouth first so we have to wait for 2 days and then go back, he may need an extraction

Bigmumman yes the bite marks looked awful. ith ad not punctured the skin but he had actual teeth marks showing on his cheeks for 4 days with massive blace and blue brusing which gradually faded away.

I accidentally kicked my dd in the face whilst sitting on the floor reading to her if its any help. I was wriggling round and somehow managed to push her forward whilst moving my feet - she was so shocked that mummy had hurt her - it was awful. But things happen. I can easily see how the girl could have accidentally kicked your ds in the mouth to be honest. I second that children often think its been done on purpose (my dd did too and I can assure you it wasnt!). I dont think two incidents in four months is too extreme as although the biting is totally unacceptable, it hopefully is an intentional one off and all schools have children who for one reason or another hurt others (the way they are dealt with is the important thing). The second event could be a genuine accident and you may not have any more from now on (although I suspect you will get bruises which apparently were done on purpose by other children! My eldest dd got hit by a frisbee and wounded on the school field and swears the boy did it on purpose - if he did he was a jolly good shot!).

Cor bilmey thats awful, i know its no help to the biting matter but if he gets bitten again and i hope he doesnt!! use Arnica cream it worked a treat on my DS it faded very quickly

The school applied Arnica just after it happen and still the brusing was so bad imagine if they hadn't!

It is awful that these things happen but tbh I feel you need to calm down a bit, especially when at the meeting.

I was perfectly calm and resonable with the school today and will be so at the meeting next week. MN is just a place I can vent my spleen without worrying about whether i am being unreasonable or not

Accidents happen at school just like anywhere else. It sounds very plausible to me that she was kicking her shoes off. I would, to sit and read Does your DS say that she just came up and kicked him in the face then? That sounds one hell of a lot less plausible to me!

With the biting, again that is something that can happen with this age group. Not often, obviously, but in my ds class there was one child who would lash out in that way. He was dealt with very consistently and strongly with a good, organised system. I would want to know the school were doing that.

But I do think that, while these two incidents are very unfortunate, that I wouldn't be judging too harshly at this stage. My ds has had two or three similar incidents with accidential kicks/headbutts and I don't think that is anything to get over heated about in terms of his whole school career. 30 kids in close proximity all day all week, is going to result in them getting too close at times. They are children, not mini adults after all!