To be shocked at another mums discipline methods

[suzybsue]

As the weather was so bad yesterday, i invited a
lady from down our street to come over with her 2 DCs. She is quite religious and regular church goer. Her DCs are always pretty quiet and far more well behaved than mine. Anyway we got chatting, and she told me ,that they normally do as they are told (as mine are a real handful) and if they do misbehave " i get the slipper out" Is that not illegal these days?

gasp, can't believe Pagwatch had to highlight the 70s were 40 years ago. Terrible post.

MrsN
I was sweating there for a minute,. After all it has been quite a few years since I did maths in the 70s . God it was...

Pag, in the 70s more of us were actually walloped with the slipper/wooden spoon/ stick/ belt, not just threatened with it! Although to be fair, after one actual walloping, the threat of another was usually enough to subdue us (except my bro who was also a little shit)

DH was actually belted by his Dad for kicking his older bro in the balls - they were black and blue for ages after - he says he fully deserved it and holds no grudge over the incident. But he wouldn't dream of lifting his hand to our DS (mind, DS is only 2 so I'd be fully horrified if he had considered it!)

My next door neighbour hit her children with a wooden spoon on the hand. She is quite proud of this and thinks she is a much better mother than others we know. She wants to foster.

Her children are no better behavioured than anyone else's.

She is a big church goer as well.

This poster posted the same q on another thread, which she had resurrected from old. There is a little web of similiar threads, with many posters in common - start with AustinsMam if you want to track this through - and one in which they practicaly out themselves, by using the exact same sentences.

I noticed it by chance and then had a look and cross-linked them, and have alerted MNHQ - but because they answer a few 'normal' threads are giving benefit of doubt.

BUT on one of Austinmam's threads, someone posted some stuff which they felt very upset and vulnerable about, so it's a shame if good Mn-ers are being drawn into someone's fantasy.

If it's your thing, whoever you are, fine, it's not a crime to have fantasies or preoccupations but please don't do it on a parenting site where it is a REAL LIVE issue for some people.

Try searching Austinsmam , Ditavonbees and suzybsue.

And note convenient bumping and resurrecting of threads.

I always tell my children I am going to batter them with a wooden spoon and lock them in the cupboard if they misbehave

DISCLAIMER I have never done either and they know I never would

Kimi, it needs to be a cupboard that is soundproofed. Egg boxes work well

My father always used to "show us the hand" when he was really mad (and I mean really mad, if any of us had really overstepped the mark) and somehow it would make us think that we might get smacked but he never did smack us, nor even say anything about being smacked, he'd just lift his hand up and sort of rock it to and fro and the showing of the hand would send us screaming in terror/giggles/wettingpants hysteria out of the way and we would know not to repeat whatever we had been doing to cause such wrath!
Troll or not, some of the replies to this are hilarious!

Chillo, I am so evil, Every week when I take mum out in the wheelchair and we get "looks" I say at the top of my voice "shut up or its back in to the cupboard for you, do not make me hit you again"

People must think poor defenseless little old lady.

One day I will be arrested

Lol Kimi

I hope you are all right and she was only joking.

She is very nice, and me and DCs visited her house today so DCs could play together.

Everything seemed fine, she is involved with the church (Catholic) and grew up in St Lucia. But she did surprise me, when didnt know about Toy Story, Buzz and Woody who my DS`s Love

I think she was joking, but can see why you would be shocked. I have made threats to mine, that i had no intention of ever carrying out.

Eh? buzz and woodY?

Woody spoon?

well y'know, Toy Story is so 1995 innit

thank you all for your explainations of life in the 70's. I of course am much to young and would never have misbehaved badly enough to get sent to the Headmasters office to be threatened with the cane.
Although actuallythe cane was for boys and girls got the slipper but Mr Allen was especially pissed off. But as I say, I am far to young so have npo notion of these things.

Oh no indeedy.

But I have heard of Buzzy Woody Spoony which means I am ok. But then I am also a catholic...

OH I don't know.

I've threatened to get a tazer for my dd. She saw someone being shocked on a telly programme and was terrified for days afterward.
I'm in my mid 40's and feel every hour of it at the moment. I am lucky though, dh has taken dd skiing up the mountain behind us.

nah! my 'rents just used their hands. No slippers, belts, sledgehammers...

do you think we can cause any lasting damage with the threats we make?

Interesting that the op has posted on mn only a few times - one of which was another thread all about punishment using slippers............ In May last year

Maybe the op is very interested in slippers? And stockings?