to never show my face at the school again

[fernie3]

I went to pick my daughter up today, already in a pretty bad mood because I feel sick. When I got to the school one of the other mums said "wow your tummy is showing already" (I am only nine weeks and not showing, its seriously just my fat) so another mum pipes up "oh no my tummy does that when I wear tight jeans too".

Then I asked about the childrens reading books because my daughter has had the same one for over a month now. The person I asked comes back with oh I dont know my son has moved onto the next stage now, you know because he capable at which point all of the other mums in range agree that in fact yes their children have moved onto some advanced readin programme and get new books twice a week. (they are in reception and my daughter still cant read a single word despite many horus of me reading to her), god she has trouble writing her name and to make it worse she is the oldest in the class.

When I got home I went to make a cup of tea (to comfort myself over the fact I am clearly fat with a stupid 5 year old) and when I went back into the living room my 3 year old had made a sandwhich out of my ten months old head with his toast and my ten month old was eating her way through.

I dont think after today I can ever show my face at the school again, I may have to hire a childminder to take her back and forth.

My husband says its the pregnancy hormones speaking but he is only saying it from work because I dont think he would dare say it if he were close enough for me to slap at the moment!.

If it's any consolation, over Christmas, the only night out I've had in yonks, I went to a lovely pub which is split over 3 floors of a rickety old building. On my way back down said steps, I fell arse over tit (due to my ridiculous heels rather than level of tiddliness, honest) straight into a Very Well Respected mum and dad from my daughters school.

YABU. Btw, last year (reception) dd1 was bottom of her class at this time of the year. She was struggling at everything. She is far ahead of her peers now, having caught up and then surpassed them sometime during the spring term. I wouldn't listen too much to what the other mums say either. If you listened to half of what proud mothers say then 99% of the uk's children would be gifted and talented and destined to go on to be brain surgeons or politicians.

@ your 3 yo. Dd2 does things like this with her cousins.

Competetive parents who compared their children's reading books to see whose was on the highest level as if it demonstrated their brilliant perenting were the bain of my life. (hooray for being lucky enough to be a SAHM) Rest assured that if you spend the time reading anything at all with her, (and it really doesn't have to be the school books because they can get a bit boring)it will pay off in the end. And don't ask other parents about reading books speak to the teacher or class room assistant.
With regards to a tummy at nine weeks, go with it and blame it on pregnancy, we all know it's easier blowing up a balloon second or fourth time round. The other mums really are just fat.
It is probably pregnancy hormones but then again I'm not close enough for you to slap me either.

Fuck em all! Competitive mums competing over reading levels is not worth wasting your angst over.

I couldn't read until I was eight. I went on to get a degree in eng lit. I wish I had the excuse of being 9 weeks PG for my muffin top, congrats. But YABU - get off your bum and take your DD to school.

First of all, wrt to tummy comment - it sounds more like excitement about a pregnancy rather than bitchiness.
I started showing around that time with dd, so maybe this woman thought the same.

And about the reading - have you discussed your dd with the teacher? If you're worried, have a word. I think sometimes as parents we don't know whats happening unless we find out from other parents. And even if there is competitiveness, it will die dowm, trust me!

badie - lol!

ok I am close to admitting its pregnancy hormones I just nearly burst into tears because we have no bread left...maybe i will just stop talking at the school as a happy alternative to never going there again, I dont think I would miss all that much really!

I asked the teacher about how my little girl was doing and she just said "shes a very popular girl" which seemed to be side stepping the question really but I will keep telling myself she hasnt got time to read because of all the great fun shes having (I dont care if its true or not!)