To ask regarding eligibility for a 3 bed property?

[Pegleg26]

I have been on the waiting list for a council property for a couple of months now, not long I know, since I found out I was expecting my second child and my Dad, whom I live with, has asked me to leave. I have a 3.5 year old ds from a previous relationship and worked, commuting to London, until last year when my contract expired. Following that, I tried fruitlessly searching for work locally so I could be closer to home during the day for my son. After 7 months with no luck I fell pg again, hence bringing me to my current situation. My 21 wk scan has revealed I'm having a girl this time. According to the self assessment on my local councils website, once she is born I am entitled to a 3 bed property in the same band I am in now.
AIBU to ask my housing officer about this? I am new to benefits and feel a bit cheeky asking but for months I have tried looking for a 2 bed that will accept housing benefit and no one will accept it. I have seen 3 beds open to HB more often than 2 beds and, at some point, will I suppose need the extra room. At the moment myself and my son stay at my Dad's home some nights of the week and at my partners (not my ds's dad) the other nights (he takes the sofa while ds and I have his bed). It's causing a lot of upheaval for myself and my son as my partner lives 2 bus rides away and as we dont drive, the journey needs to be done a few times a week. I know it was irresponsible to have got myself into this situation but surprises happen, I haven't dealt with councils much so don't know whether it is worth asking or whether my housing officer will think I'm taking the royal p*ss. The whole situation's getting me so stressed at the thought of doing this routine in a few month's time when I'm going to be the size of a whale, or, worse, with a toddler AND newborn. Input appreciated, Thanks

They can share till 10 in my LA.

Thank you for your comments, I was nervous but rang my housing officer to ask. Turns out they can't do anything until baby girl is born (and therefore defo a she!) but once she is here they can reassess me and more than likely, I'll be eligible for a 3 bed as they work towards a long term solution. Good news, just need to carry on doing my back and forth routine until May though. Rock and a hard place but at least it should be worth the wait in the end

We were entitled to a 3 bed and we had dd (5) and ds (2) at the time, don't think ds counted until he was 1 or 2 iirc. If you really want a 3 bed I would hold out as once you have accepted a 2 bed it would take forever to be moved again. I know a couple with 4 kids, one with sn that are still stuck in a 2 bed.

I have 5 DC in a 3 bed. No big problem.

Which band are you in at the moment?

Hmm where did my post go? Can anyone else see it?

Found it!

Round here 2 kid of different sexes have to share until they are 10. SO you are very lucky if your LA has different rules. Given the shortage of housing properties and the amount of desperate people perhaps you could just a 2 bed for a while. If it's you, ds and a newborn you don't need a 3 bed do you? Most people renting privately would just get a 2 bed. You will probably have 1 empty bedroom for at least a year or so whilst new baby is in with you. As Tiffany says there are people with 5 kids waiting for 3 beds who need them loads more than you.

This will probably speed up your waiting time too. Round here living with a parent or friend (even being asked to leave) means you are in band "B", so they will move you into temporary accomodation for 2-3 yrs. This could be 1 bed flat or bedsit. I lived in 1 bed flat with my dd for nearly 2 years.

Just out of interest why do you and your son take the bed and he sleep on sofa? Why not get your ds a little airbed and then you and dp can sleep together. Surely that'd be less stressful.

Also - Are you wanting a 3 bed so that your DP can move in? can;t you and DP rent somewhere together?