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Original poster

not to want to be booted out into the snow?

35 replies

lilypotter · 05/01/2010 09:39

Heavy snow forecast round these 'ere parts for tomorrow. Schools likely to be shut, in which case DCs and I will be at home. DH has planned to work at home anyway, as he has an essay to complete for his MA.

He is always a complete grump re: working and noise and has said that we're going to have to go out for the day as "he has to be able to concentrate and won't be able to if we're in the house!"

My initial reaction was to laugh and say "yeah, right". But it seems he's serious! I've suggested he finds somewhere to go (like the nearest snowdrift) but that didn't go down too well either.

Any suggestions?

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DoingTheBestICan · 05/01/2010 09:41

Could he go to your local library?

Otherwise i would tell him to bog off.

ZacharyQuack · 05/01/2010 09:46

Send him to the library.

ginnybag · 05/01/2010 09:57

And what are you supposed to do with the kids in these conditions?

If it's not fit for him, an adult, to get to work, then it's surely not fit for his children.

Tell him tough, them's the breaks of parenthood, laddie.

ABitOfPizzazz · 05/01/2010 09:58

Yes, send him to the library. It's easier for him to go and find somewhere rather than you with dc in tow.

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lilypotter · 05/01/2010 10:01

Thing is, if we're not at school, it's because we're snowed in. And it's therefore difficult to get out and about. In a car, anyway. I guess the library is at least a half hour walk away, but will suggest it.
Even if I take the DCs out for a sledge, that'll only cover an hour or so. And, frankly, they're a bit "sledged-out" after all the snow at Christmas.
Am trying to think if any friends will be out and could therefore "lend" him a quiet house. But we'll all be in the same boat...

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CirrhosisByTheSea · 05/01/2010 10:07

of course he should get down to the library. Outrageous to suggest his wife and kids spend the day freezing out of the house - how bizarre

geordieminx · 05/01/2010 10:10

Local MacDonalds or Starbucks has free wifi.

Original poster
lilypotter · 05/01/2010 10:11

My thoughts exactly, cirrhosis.
And he says I'm being selfish!

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CirrhosisByTheSea · 05/01/2010 10:18

lily, he sounds maddening! My fingers are itching as I type - want to come and give him a slap!

Have you asked him what he suggests you do all day?

PfftTheMagicDragon · 05/01/2010 10:18

He expects you to take the children out for a good portion of the day to save him (one person) making the trip to the library/coffee shop?

YANBU

You should go nowhere, and don't tiptoe round for him. If he wants silence, he should go and find it.

lambanana · 05/01/2010 10:23

You are not being unreasonable in the slightest.

My dh has just slipped and skidded his way gone to the library as he is working from home today. I have got 2 under 3 so absolutely not feasible to walk or drive anywhere in this hell snow.

He is being extremely selfish.

Heffthelump · 05/01/2010 10:59

YANBU, he needs to suck it up and stop being so precious. No way should you have to leave the house in this weather because he needs to concentrate.

Morloth · 05/01/2010 11:02

How exactly does someone arrive at the conclusion that it is better to send a bunch of kids out of the house into the snow (not playing but away) rather than one adult? People are not really that selfish are they?

ChilloHippi · 05/01/2010 11:05

Earplugs?

ChilloHippi · 05/01/2010 11:06

(for you so you can't hear him moaning)

pjmama · 05/01/2010 11:16

Tell him to grow up and stop being so bloody ridiculous!

Original poster
lilypotter · 05/01/2010 11:20

Marvellous, everyone, Thanks. Have some great ammunition for Round 2 tonight!

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Angelcat666 · 05/01/2010 11:23

YADNBU

Tell him to go

OrmIrian · 05/01/2010 11:28

Twat!

Whilst I have some sympathy for him he is being ridiculous. When I am working from home when the kids are on holiday I do struggle and DH will take them out for a few hours. But I wouldn't demand it and certainly not in weather like this!

TrillianAstra · 05/01/2010 11:29

Earplugs and a lock on the door?

itsmeolord · 05/01/2010 11:29

I dont understand why you are the one looking for a solution here. If he wants a quiet place to work he needs to go find one.

JaneS · 05/01/2010 11:36

I wrote my Masters dissertation sharing a single room with my partner. He spent the last weekend before I handed it in watching DVDs with his friend while I worked on the sofa.

That's how it goes. Your man can surely cope with some extra noise for one whole day?!

pooexplosions · 05/01/2010 11:57

I just finished a 3000 word psych essay while having 3 children (inc a newborn), all with colds, in a tiny house with no privacy. And I start another one tomorrow. (if I can be arsed)

Tell him to suck it up and stop being such a princess.

mistletoekisses · 05/01/2010 12:07

My god, it is an essay! Talk about him being OTT! If he is going to be that precious about it, tell him to get out in the snow and find a quiet place.

Idiot.

WebDude · 05/01/2010 12:35

Tell him to wrap up and sit in the car with a travel blanket over him and 3 flasks of coffee (and you can lock the door once he's out so he is forced to do his essay in his silent location).

No need to annoy anyone else / disturb their household or even travel. Easy, innit