over cupboard space

[Fibilou]

AIBU to think that, when you have 7 shelves, 3 drawers and 2 hanging racks compared to the 1 hanging rack and 3 drawers that your wife has, you DON'T moan about "how little room" you have to store yet more new clothes ? And expect your wife to give up some of her titchy amount of space ?
Especially when half of the room you use is taken up with clothes that last fitted you 3 years ago and you refuse to give away/put in the loft ?

not unreasonable at all.

you need to do a judicious bagging and loft storing when he is not at home. See what he misses.

YANBU

I suggest when you go to Devon, you forget to pack his clothes/forget his bag when you come home!!

This is the first time I have known a bloke to have more wardrobe/storage space than the wife.... most unusual!

I am thinking about presenting him with a list of what he has today - he is always moaning that he "has no clothes". He has at least 30 work shirts and 3 work suits - he's a detective so it's not as if he's on a fashion parade. He has about 25 jumpers.

I've been managing with 5 everyday tops, 4 skirts, one dress, a dressy top and a cardigan for the last 8 months. So I really can't see how he constantly needs to be buying more - and they all look the same anyway.

My Dh is like this- he has more clothes than I have ever know a man to have (actually- that's not true- my Dad was equally bad).

My Dh refuses to get rid of anything even though it hasn't fitted him for 5 yrs. It drives me nuts. Especially when he then has the cheek to moan about the cupboard under the stairs where all four of us keep our stuff- he can never find anything! Tha't because he forces us to all use a tiny space because his stuff is elsewhere.

His stuff is from charty shops though- we have a really good one near us so he too has a million work shirts that all look the same!

YADNBU!

I know this is sad but I have just had a round up of what he has in the cupboard that fits him:

18 ties
24 work shirts (enough for 3 shift rotations without washing !)
7 heavy jumpers
13 pairs of trousers (including jeans)
15 lightweight jumpers/jumpery tops
6 pairs of shorts
1 pair jogging bottoms
12 T shirts
2 cardigan things
3 fleeces
1 winter coat
1 DJ

Plus 4 work suits, what's in the wash and what he's wearing today. Next time he tells me he has "nothing to wear" I will laugh in his face.

I counted what I have:

7 tops
6 skirts
3 cardigans
1 dress
1 dressing up top
1 coat

Something seems to be slightly awry here.. I know I'm pregnant - but the majority of those were prepregnancy clothes and I've made do with that selection for nearly 9 months.

Hmmm - there does seem to be an imbalance here!!

Do you want to/would you enjoy/can you afford to go and buy some new clothes once you feel up to it after you've had the baby??

Anything that doesn't fit goes up into the attic (if he can't bear to part with it) and anything that doesn't get worn should go to a charity shop. You don't have the wardrobe space to have unworn clothes in it!

I would also make a deal with him (as he has a lot of clothes), whenever he buys a new item, an old item has to go.

get some of those bags (e.g. from lakeland) where you put it in and take out the air with a vacuum cleaner - he can choose half his clothes to keep, the rest go in the attic, then when he's bored of the ones he's got, he can swap them round and have a whole set of 'new' clothes...

My DP has loads of clothes too. I counted a few months ago and he had 33 t-shirts and 15 pairs of smart trousers. Also about 12 suit jackets.

He doesn't complain about not having enough space, to be fair, but it does mean that we have to have a whole clothes rail just for him which takes up loads of space in our small bedroom.

To be completely fair to him, though. His clothes are generally a lot larger than mine, so do take up more space naturally.

I would definitely bag up some of the clothes he hasn't worn for ages and put them in the loft or somewhere similar for a while and see if he notices. If he doesn't (and I doubt very much that he will) then I would send them to a charity shop. Whats the point of them hanging unused in your cupboards taking up much needed space when someone else could be making good use of them? If nothing else you can blame your nesting instinct. I've cleared out loads of cupboards in the last few weeks.

On the subject of your wardrobe, I can not recommend the debenhams (or any other department stores) personal shopper service when you have a small baby. My DD1 was about three months old and of course none of my pre pregnancy clothes fitted me. Fighting my way round the shops with a pushchair was not my idea of fun but I really wanted some clothes that fitted and looked nice, (a self esteem thing I think). Anyway with the personal shopper you go to their nice big room, have a cup of tea, tell the shopper what you're looking for and they go and get it for you whilst you just sit there. You try it on in their lovely big changing room whilst in my case the personal shopper entertains the baby. If you want something else or a different size they'll get that and you only buy and pay for what you want, no stress no struggling to find what you need or anything. I loved it, already looking forward to my new baby shopping trip this time round.