to ask DP'ex why they split up?

[CurseBetweenUs]

DP is at work. I've had a bit to drink so cannot fully trust my own judgement.

I'm talking to his ex via facebook and am dying to ask why they split up because he just won't talk about it.

Yay or nay?

[FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010]

You can't justify going behind your boyfriend's back by saying you would tell.

[TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied]

You must have either asked her or not by now so what was the outcome?

[duchesse]

It depends why you want to know. If you are having misgivings about his behaviour, for example you suspect that he might be abusive, then I think fair enough. Not enough people find out these things until they find out the hard way. My sister and I joke that we wish we could tattoo her bastard ex's forehead to warn other women off him, because there's no other way of knowing.

If you have no such concerns I would stay well away, frankly.

[CurseBetweenUs]

no I didn't ask, but I'm still talking to her so the potential is still there lol

[DuelingFanjo]

so how did you even start talking to her. Does she know you go out with her ex?

[FiveSoloRings]

Now I have had my ex's gf(now wife)email me asking me questions about him. I was very suspicious at the time, but did respond and she phoned me...I told her the truth, didn't embellish it at all, though I did forget a lot sadly lol! anyway, he'd been lying to her about money(which was the reason we eventually split)and about loads of other stuff...he's a compulsive liar btw.
Anyway, silly cow still married him...more fool her I say and I keep waiting for her to wake up and smell the coffee and if I know him, it'd be extremely expensive coffee.

[BitOfFun]

Naughty Shiney

[littlemoominmamma]

If you really are that interested and going to do it anyway, make sure you let us know what she says - I hate not being filled in!

[CirrhosisByTheSea]

I think the relationship is doomed if you're even having to think of asking her.

[MaggieMnaSneachta]

if you have doubts it would be very interesting to hear her side of the story. you could then add his version to her version, average them and get something more like what really happened???

but i wouldn't do it yourself. do you have a mutual acquaintance.

OR,,,,, you could POSE as a friend of yourself and say you're worried about your friend. that would seem slightly less insecure and bonkers. UNLESS of course she found out that you were the friend and then you would seem a hundred times crazier.

[MaggieMnaSneachta]

oh too late, you're already talking to her. i'd ask her then!!

[WhereYouLeftIt]

Having just read your other thread - if I were you I'd be interested too. But then, you probably know already that it was because he was a f*ckwit.

[BigBadMummy]

How would you feel if he asked you something, you chose not to answer and then he went behind your back?

He might just not want to talk about it. He might feel guilt for fucking it all up.

Unless you suspect he has been violent (as in IloveTiffany's case) I would stay well away.

Why does it matter?

[KimiLovesHerFamily]

I would have to ask, sorry but I would

[GypsyMoth]

sorry,just come back to this.
yes.pikelit,they DO believe me.....he tells them most of what happened,he loves the attention,even negative attention.

[beammeupscotty]

STOP THIS MINUTE
But if you haven't tell us what she said - we won't tell honest

[TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied]

Just read your other thread- and posted on it.

She can't be arsed to look after her own son- a reason for him to leave her in itself. He can't be bothered to look after his own son- a reason for her to leave him.

Who cares why they split, they're both arseholes.

[BitOfFun]

Endorse that, Panini...

[alicet]

If you're still chatting on FB wouldn't a more pertinent question be why she can't be bothered to look after her son? (relating to your other thread)

[kinnies]

What Panini said