to expect my DH to tidy up his mess in the kitchen?

[BigBadMummy]

OK so he was making home made pizzas for the two of us (which admittedly were fabulous) but the kitchen looks like a bomb has gone off in it.

When I cook I clear up at the same time.

I have also been the one doing all the tidying and cleaning over the last few days whilst he catches up on much needed sleep. I have to get up early to let the dog out.

Am I being unreasonable to ask him to get off his arse and sort it out and then to bring me a large cold drink as well?

YANBU, I can never understand why things can't be washed up whilst cooking. Cooking takes time. The tomato sauce won't go horribly wrong if you wash the peeler or the grater after giving it a stir.

Even when making a cup of tea there's time to do stuff such as putting plates away or wiping the units.

'Tis a man thing and needs to be spelt out.

What sort of bomb are we talking?

Really?

LOL I've made homemade pizzas tonight and not cleared up yet !

YABU as it's the other way round in our house- I can't clean as I cook and DH gets really mad about it

Can you post the recipe he uses for the base? Mine never seem tasty enough!!

Sorry for the off topic question, just thought i would ask!

I tried the tactic of being competitive with my DH about this - i.e look how tidy it is in here when I cook...he took the hint (there was a touch of humour to it) and now he is much better...but I will forgive a fair bit of mess as he is such a fab cook

Oh this gets to me too. Whilst I am grateful to have a DH who cooks, I do so wish he would tidy up after himself.

My other half is the same. I feel guilty though for moaning at him if he leaves his mess. Its not unreasonable to expect him to at least make the effort to tidy up.He should not expect u to do it either!
YANBU at all.

Shit I have just remembered that I made homemade mincepies earlier and have not tidied up.

In our house sometimes the person who cooked tidies up, sometimes the other one. I probably tidy up more but I am there more.

Mine does this too (and often leaves drawers/cupboards/the fridge open). Seems to be a male goal-oriented thing. I'm pretty much used to being the housekeeper round here now.

I can't stand it. As much as it's nice to be cooked for, if I have to clean up a kitchen that looks like a bomb has gone off in it, I'd rather have a cheese sandwich thanks!!

My DP is so bad at cooking that he would burn water!! This morning iv come int the livingroom to discover the leftovers from him making a bacon sandwhich last night. Total disaster. Burnt bacon and black toast everywhere. Butter left out of fridge - with toast crumbs all thru it - and tea bag lying in the sink ( i hate that).

I think their mothers have a lot to answer for. My son will be taught how to cook, clean and respect women.

I don't think this has all to do with a failure to teach sons how to cook, clean and respect women. It is perfectly possible to live with someone (or indeed bring one up) who has all those values yet still leaves a thermo-nuclear aftermath in the kitchen when they have cooked. They will clean it up, you understand. It's just that 8 hours later is early enough to start.

It's the other way round in my house. DH cooked roast dinner on christmas day and boxing day for my family and tidied up as he went - the kitchen was immaculate. I put a frozen lasagne in the oven and the kitchen looks like world war 3. For the record my MIL is exactly the same so there's something to be said for the men learning from their mother theory.

Pikelit (funny name that.....?), I have to agree.

I thought the 'respect' bit was a bit of a red herring, and I was halfway thro a snotty response when I choked it back.......

He who cooks, doesn't tidy. That is the rule in our house!

And Strawberries, you need to get a perforated pizza tray.
Such as this:

www.johnlewis.com/230598045/Product.aspx

And jamie Olivers pizza dough is so easy from his Italian book.

my dh also does this

he likes to create when cooking - i say he creates a mess

whoever cooks, the other washs up, so i prefer to cook or i wash up every thing we have in our kitchen as dh uses it

Maybe DH suffers from the same defect I do.

I desperately try and be tidy but there is a defect in my brain which stops me from doing it. Even when I am trying I manage to leave at least a handful of items out. DH is always clearing up after me.

We had this problem in our house and now have the rule that the person who does the cooking also does the washing up and tidying. It works a treat, and DH is gradually realising that if he chooses to use every single pan and pot in the kitchen to make a bowl of soup then that's OK ... but he is going to wash up all those pots and pans too. The message is gradually getting through .....