To NOT go to the ils today?

[sunburntats]

You are all going to say that i am but, im not bothered, i am not going.

Dh is annoyed about it., i am not going.

He has gone as he invited himself for dinner there today.

I cant be arsed with them, they ahve a dog (cant stand dogs, real fobia about them) so every cup of tea and plate has dog hairs stuck to them, makes me want to vomit.

They do nothing at all to help or support us, not interested in ds (thier only gc)

fil will have golf, football, any sport that is on ALL day on telly.

Mil will do everything, cooking cleaning up, etc, he wont even make a cup of tea.

They dont particulary like me, never have.

I have made efforts over the years, but feel very let down by them for lots of reasons too many to go inot here.

I have been polite about it, told dh i jsut want a day to myself, (had mc 4 weeks ago) Just crave peace, a bath and my own company at the moment. feeling antisocial anyway.

sigh, what a biatch, but i cant help the way i feel today

How do you spell "fobia"?
fobya
fobea
fobia
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phobia

ahhhhh SO obvious now you have spelt it for me, thansk southy!

YANBU

It's sounds horrible.

Don't go.

You are certainly not a bitch, you are human.

Do what you need with a nice bath and peace.

Don't go, and don't feel guilty about it. They sound trying to say the least. Nice day relaxing, bath and pampering.

So sorry about your MC , its very important you get your own space at the moment.

YANBU
you deserve some time to yourself. enoy it!

YANBU, enjoy the time and space you gain from DH going and you staying at home. You need time to get over your MC, and besides, you says you and your DH have to be joined at the hip and go everywhere together? It wouldn't be odd if you went on your own to your parents, so why should it be considered unreasonable the other way round?

I'm probably overly defensive on the matter as DH and DD have gone to the ILs for lunch and I am at home, deep conditioning my hair, eating a pie and surfing the net. My ILs are lovely, but I can have too much of them. Besides, I'm 34 weeks pg, finished work yesterday, stayed up until midnight at DH's request and am tired, so figure I would be rubbish company anyway!

Join me in a pie?!

YANBU enjoy your own company if you want to!

mmm yes please...although the diet did officially begin today..

YANBU, my in laws are exactly the same and I made the mistake of thinking "one last boxing day" and I spent the whole evening there feeling miserable.

Make your dh take the dc and spend the day relaxing and enjoying yourself.

Im watching crap on telly, talking to you all...im ok.

I always make excuses tbh and try to never go there.

Because they show zero interest in ds, we never see them...unless dh takes ds round there.

I get so pissed off with the fact that they never ever offer to take ds for even an hour to the park, or out some where.
When we ask mil to babysit, she nearly always says yes, i think she has babysat for us 3 times in the last year.
I was in hospital when i had my mc, dh told them, but they never asked if he needed them to watch ds while he came to be with me.

I think that they "just dont think", nothing spiteful in it, it just does not occurr to them that dh cant come and sit with me, becuase he has to look after ds.
I text my auntie while off my head on morphine, gas n air to please come to the hospital, she went to the house and sent dh...she did a huge pile of ironing for me and did the washing up

sigh

YANBU. Never place yourself in a situation that you know will make you feel angry or shite. have a relaxing day instead

YANBU - I hate it when pet owners dont clean properly. It makes me feel sick.

Im not going to my sisters today and have upset my family - She has 2 cats and doesnt seem to notice the hairs in things - I do. She also tends to loose her hairs in the cakes and puddings she makes - Gross!

I have said I have a cold! Im 36 weeks pg with an 18mo dd and am usually the one left to run around after dd because my sisters house isnt child friendly.

Especially after your recent loss, stay home and enjoy some peace and quiet or alone time with your ds

In laws are shit, sisters are shit and pets are shit.

Can you tell I have had enough of visiting people!

I'm supposed to be going to SIL's today, but can't be arsed. SIL is nice enough person but is as dull as dishwater and refuses to serve anything 'unhealthy'. I've decided to send my dh and three dc's to sil's house and i am relaxing at home with a large slice of Taste the difference lemon drizzle cake and a bottle of white grape shloer.
yanbu

what did you do?

really want to know!

dog hair encrusted food and sky sports of relaxing bath and peace??