in being pissed off that my family have not sent dd a card or anything on her 18th

[brimfull]

It's not as is it's a surprise or anything.

Tis the same date every yr ffs

Nothing has arrived from either her grandparetns or her 3 uncles.

They all live in Canada so it does take a bit of forethough but still.

She hasn't said a word bless her.

I am pissed of for her.

YABU.
SOme families don't do cards and stuff.

Some others hate each other but are very big on cards and stuff.

Our extended family are very close . My siblings and I have 12 children between us.

We have never sent birthday cards to neices and nephews and in fact don't even know when all the birthdays are.

my brothers do not have any other neices and nephews
my parents only have dd and ds as grandchildren

tbh I am disappointed in my brothers but not entirely suprised.

Thought my parents should have got their act together though

All the more reason for them not to even think about it.
seriously, cards are just not in my radar and sounds like it is the same for your family .

YANBU - it is an important day for her.

My BIL never gives DD a birthday present, she is only 3 but it still irks me a bit.

for your DD.

Hopefully they do at least know her name, though.

My friend was telling me how her FIL was writing a Christmas card when they arrived on Boxing Day, and asked what the children's names are.

it is important for her but why should it be for them?

well, that's exactly why, in my opinion!

YANBU - it's her 18th, and whether or not you "do cards" in your family, there is something about an 18th in a family that basic manners dictate that you acknowledge, esp. if it's a grandchild.

I hope she had a great time regardless.

they normally send cards and gift, well my parents do anywya

I would have thought for her 18th they would have made an effort

Have they acknowledged it in some other way, or could the bad weather have held things up?

my parents have just called her

apparently they sent it 10days ago by airmail-

which is obviously not going to get here in time cos of xmas

still pissed off as they could have planned it to get here but they have phoned

am being huffy now

So they have sent something? OK, in that case I think you're being a teensy BU!

Perhaps thay have just got hold up in the post.

I've just seen that they have sent something and 10 days ago by airmailshould have been in time to get here it doesn't take weeks you know even at Christmas. So you are definatly biing unreasonable.

yeh IABU

bastards

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