To intervene in Teeenage girls life....urgent advice needed

[KissingUnderTheMittsletoe]

Briefly..

DS has a very troubled 12 yr old female friend. She comes to our house quite a bit and I like her a lot.

Found notes near my computer late last night (10pm) for someone to meet up....challenged my DS and he said it is this girl and she has arranged to meet a group of 26 yr old boys that she has met through facebook.

I have tried to ring her Dad, I don't know her mum, and even tried to find out his Girlfriends number.

She is apparently coming here to meet with DS just before 11am when she is due to meet them. DS is gutted she will think he 'dobbed' on her, but I feel sick at the thought that she goes ahead. All of my alarm bells are ringing. I have to do something. Her Dad still isn't answering the phone.

What do I do and say? I know she will hate me...she has real adult issues but I can't stand by and do nothing.

Well, so far I have found a large 'tiddly wink', 37p, a hair-slide and a ball of fluffy goo in the filter [cough]).

But it is upset now because I have tried several different programmes and it hates that, so we shall see.

at yours freezing, Butterfly! Perhaps I should throw a quilt over mine, the kitchen is pretty nippy!

Cripes - you must definitely step in. They could be machete wielding nutters for all you and she knows - perhaps you could say that, a bit of humour might be helpful.
We also have teens and I find it makes them take notice if you explain how it will impact on your life, rather than trying to sort their life out. Try saying: "I really don't want my house to be the last place you were seen alive. And for that to be all over the papers and TV when you're found in bin bags down by the canal. I will be worrying about you all day and feeling really awful if you do go."
Poor you though - nightmare. But your instincts are spot on, this kid needs a boundary, right now. At the very least she needs to look you in the eye and say "I hear what you are saying but I'm going to do it anyway". If she has the least modicum of sense, she won't have the nerve to openly defy you.

ijustwanttoaskaquestion - yes of course he is. But if you re-read my thread it wasn't the guilty party who said she looked 18 - it was someone independent. Still no excuse though.