to go upstairs and snuggle up to my little boy

[fernie3]

we are staying at my sisters house for Christmas and have actually enjoyed it it many ways BUT there has been some underlying tension because my sister has no kids, lovely house, cat that is her baby etc and I have three kids 5 and under. My middle son who is three is a little terror sometimes and because he has some delays with certain areas of his development (i have no idea why as we are still going through little assessments here and there but he does need one to one help in nursery for example). He does not fit in at all with their lifestyle and today he was really excited and just couldnt control himself at all, to be honest he did nothing that was crime of the century BUT he does have a tendancy to scream for no reason at wierd times he is very clumsy and has trouble following quite basic instructions. I could feel myself getting embarassed about him and when my sister and her boyfriends started basically making fun of him it upset me even more, not long after i just lost it with him when he bit his sister during an argument and sent him to bed (this was 5:30) he fell asleep and has been there ever since.

now I have calmed down I realise that he probably picked up on the way my sis and boyfriend were taking about him and my sis wont have him sitting next to her for example. I feel like I should have stood up for him, I should have done more to calm the sitation and should have told me sisters boyfriend to shut the hell up but i didnt i just blamed my son for being himself.

I want to go upstairs and hug him but is it unreqasonable to do that! he DID misbehave but i just dont know how much he can help it?!?!

YANBU - he has had his punishment, though if they were teasing him he is bound to react in some way. Could you explain to your sister how children react when they feel unwanted?

Go cuddle him - NOW!!!!!! And enjoy xx

YANBU

You sound like me a lot of the time!

DD2 has epilepsy and the absences and the medication she takes can cause her behaviour to be a total horror little trying...

I am pretty patient with her but she can be so bloody unreasonable at times that I end up getting angry and we argue (despite the fact she is only 6).

I quite often go up to her room at the end of the day and give her a hug, or if she's awake tell her I love her so much and give her the 'mammy gets cross sometimes' calm talk.

It's easy to get carried away especially if you have other people there who kind of 'expect' you to be able to control your child and dont always understand that it's not that simple.

go and give him a subtle cuddle but try not to wake him up

when can you go home? does your sis know he is being assessed for things? she doesn't sound very nice

I would go wake all your kids up, call a taxi or drive home, put them all in their own beds and give your little boy a cuddle all night.

If my sister wouldn't sit next to my son, and made fun of him I wouldn't stay in her house. Or invite her to mine.

YANBU - go and give him a cuddle!

Your sister sounds like she is being unreasonable however, a little understanding at Christmas would not have gone a miss!

i want to cuddle ds every night when i go in to bed (all ours have stayed in our room till they were about 3), but he'd wake up and man, he has a loud cry!

YANBU. Shame on your sister for teasing your child like that.
I would go home tommorow if I were you, I'd let her know I was upset.
And I would be cuddling my little boy right now if I were you.

hi I DID go and hug him and had a lovely little chat with him about his new torch (he gets very upset in the dark so father Christmas brought him a Thomas torch that projects little pictures onto the wall).

My sister has NEVER behaved like this before BUT this is the first time we have been to her house, my mother died when she was 14 and since then she has stayed with me alot (as our dad wasnt that interested) and this is actually the first time she has had a proper house and we have visited her instead of her being with us. I dont know if it is how she feels or how her boyfriend feels as their relationship is dysfunctional to say the least!

we have now arranged on th 27th to go and stay with my MIL until we go home (she lives about half an hour train ride from my sister) We live hundreds of miles away and cannot rearrange the dates of the tickets home so MIL is about the best we can do!.

My MIL is great with the kids though (she had 5 of her own) so it should be alot easier for everyone there.

My little boy seems happy today anyway

she made fun of him and refused to sit by him?

i'd have bitten her myself.

She made fun of a 3yr old?
I hope you´re not there anymore!

YANBU for adults to make fun of a little boy is totally unacceptable.It sounds as if your DS was overtired and that is why he was screaming in and bit his sister.
I think you handled it very well and remained in control of yourself and a good guest.