MIL, plastic surgery and a lovely xmas visit

[sherby]

Its xmas eve so we need a good mil AIBU

We had arranged not to do xmas day together this year because she has just had surgery (eyes and arms)

DH has just told me she is coming in the morning for a few hours. Which is fine, apart from the fact that I spoke to her this morning and she told me she looks like frankinstein with some fetching black stitching around her eyes

AIBU to think she is going to freak the children out (2 and 4) and that I don't really want to have to think of a good reason for why nanny looks weird

stitching!

I doubt she will traumatise the children for life but, really, must she come round? Will she also be a bit spaced out on painkillers?

YABU.

Don't get me wrong, the woman sounds a bit odd, but tis her choice.
Just tell the kids she needed an operation, or fell over or something. At 4 and 2 they'll believe you.

Just tell the dc that if they are naughty then FC gets a bit rough.....

Sorry ; this is very funny for me to read...I would be mightly annoyed if it were my 2 and 4 year old and MIL.

yes will think of something suitable to tell the DC

but bloody hell

anyway last year she came as a christmas tree so at least she is keeping it interesting

She sounds like a right strange un. If any consolation, surgery on arms rarely a success and leaves one hell of a scar for all to see every time she gets her (ex) bingo wings out.
But then xmas is all about family - no matter how weird and wonderful. You sound like nice person who would feel even worse if you knew she was at home feeling unloved and unwanted (and hating herself so much she was working out which bit to cut off next in crazy self-loathing fashion).
Take it on the chin, pour another gin, it is like something out of a soap opera so just use it as stand-up comedy material for your next girls' night out - and hubby owes you one of those fairly shortly, I'd say.

I'd never even heard that surgery on arms existed before! How sad to be so unhappy with oneself

I've found that little ones are fine around injuries and actually quite fascinated usually so long as others around don't react with fear/disgust.

Oh my gosh! Don't let this woman in your house - furthermore, don't let your children out of the house! What if they were to see an accident victim or even a physically handicapped person? Please make sure your children understand A.S.A.P! that only physically perfect specimens are worthy!

tell her its christmas, not bloody halloween

I really don't see what is so odd about having plastic surgery?! Thousands upon thousands of perfectly normal women have it and surely she is doing it to her own body and it's her personal choice?

I doubt she will 'scare' your children. Would you also worry about her scaring your children if she'd been a road accident or was bald through chemotherapy, or are you just lacking understanding because she has had elective surgery?

LOL at me suddenly becoming horified at the sight of disabled people.

SHE herself said she would rather not come over because she looked awful and didn't want to worry the children and um children do worry when they see somebody they love suddenly sown up and not able to use their arms

Skihorse over exaggerate much? How is seeing a random stranger accident victim the same as seeing your previously unhurt grandmother sewn up with two black eyes?

How did it go?

I think she was very rude to change her mind at the last minute tbh.

not so bothered about her changing her mind at last minute tbh

more bothered about having to look at stapled up arms and sewn up eyes

went fine

DC not bothered, we told them she fell over

Children are usually unperterbed by thinsg that bother adults, or that adults think would bother them, IMO.

Surely your MIL woul dhave ha dher arms covered anyway? It's fooking freezing?! And if she was worried about how her eyes looked herself, she could have worn sunglasses?

Glad it went well and the cildren weren't bothered anyway.

PS- I have had a few cosmetic surgeries and just told my children the truth, none of them were bothered.