we went out to a restaurant for nice Christmas Eve meal with 11 adults and 10 kids, all family friends - kids' table and 2 adults' tables - all the kids were hyper but NOT on the scale of my ds1, he was completely unbearable - throwing things, bellowing, standing on his chair - for 2 fucking hours
he has AS and is thrown by things like Christmas and special occasions generally - I did everything that normally works - gave him something to chew/fiddle with, took him outside for a quiet calm-down chat, etc etc
but he was bloody terrible and it was one of the most stressful meals I've ever had
since we've got home he has accidentally hit his brother in the face and made him cry, screamed at his dad, slammed several door, claimed he can't remember how to put his pyjamas on, freaked out and started screaming in the shower because he thought ds2 was going to wee on him
dh is thundering around the place being disciplinarian asending ds1 to sit on the stairs over and over again when what he really needs is just to go to fucking BED
but I will be in the shit for undermining him if I interfere, he's already snapped at me twice for trying to diffuse things in the restaurant
I am NOT feeling festive