To be a teeny tiny bit sad I am spending xmas day just me and DS?

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I could have dragged him to my nana's where there wouldn't have been enough seats, DS would have freaked at the crowd of people and my nana and him would have their usual contest of who can talk over the other the loudest but oddly I declined so am now cooking xmas dinner for one (DS will not eat hot, wet food), then at 5pm taking DS to his dad's for the night and my mum is coming over and staying the night here who drives me crackers and is totally draining (think emotional vampire).

Sigh.

Most of the time I am "oh it's fine will have a nice chilled day it could be worse", but now and again I wish tomorrow could be a different kind of day.

YANBU. It's miserable to be alone.

One of the mums at school was in a situation like this. In the end, she found another mum in a similar situation and they share Christmas day now.

I hope you are able to make it special and have fun.

YANBU I would not like that one bit. I wouldn't even like it if it were just me DH and the dc it would just be like any other day nothing special at all.

I hope next year you've found a different solution!

Thanks pixie, yes I am trying to make it nice for DS that's my focus. Ex was always bloody mardy at xmas so at least we don't have that black cloud of gloom around.

It is just me being selfish and wishing I had a grown up or two that I could spend some time with on the day IYKWIM. My mum is ... we have issues.

It is also sad in that before at least I could pretend I had a happy family xmas, this year it is more of a harsh reality, not just that I am on my own for Christmas day, but also that I wasted the last 9 xmas days and for what?

No, YANBU, but although your Mum might be emotionally draining, mine won't even bother to visit me. I am on my own until 29th as my DC are witht heir dad for Christmas and my DH is visiting his children.

I've got a chicken tikka masala in the freezer for dinner tomorow, that I saved from a take away last week.

I have to admit, I thought it would be nice to be have some time to myself, but I am a bit sorry for myself, so I know how you feel. chin up.

Oops x posted with everyone there.

I do have a single mum friend but she has one of these lovely close families who are all just nice and enjoy and love eash other's company.

Everyone else is coupled up or have their own kids to think of.

I am wallowing TBH and it is doing no good.

oh midori Can you not go with your DH?? I am guessing you are nowhere near me (?) but if yo are you are welcome here for the day.

YANBU.
If you feel unhappy with it, then you do.

A few years back, my Dad announced mid December he was having lunch with his friends, which meant DD and I were on our own.
I was reuly gutted but we did it, and it was OK.

Now it's just DD and I every year. My Dad comes for an hour bearing gifts, I go all out with food for the two of us, and we do the day exactly how we want.
I love it now and wouldn't want it any other way.

if you wallow ABTA you will waste another Christmas! I know its a little bit shite but try to look on the positive side - things could be a lot worse. Just get quietly bladdered if your mum annoys you!

Like the idea of getting quietly bladdered whilst my mum is here.

Me and DS will have a nice day I will make sure of it. It will be our first Christmas together in our newhouse, a fresh start and thankfully he is soo happy since i left ex. I want him to remember this phase in his life when he is older and look back with nice memories of Christmas with his mum.

Thank you everyone x

Could you perhaps plan something to do with DS tomorrow? Feeding the ducks? Bike ride? Long walk? So that you've got something to do during the day instead of just sitting around.

What do you two like doing together? Could you plan a board games championship or something and see who can be the 'ultimate champion'?

You could see who can fit most hula hoops/smarties into their mouths at once?

Rather 'count' your blessings, name them every one.

1. You are alive.
2. Your child is alive.
3. You have a rood over your head.
4. You have clothes to wear.
5. You have food.
6. You have each other.
7. You have gifts.
8. You have family near by, that you can

visit later.

the list goes on........stay positive, enjoy your child, enjoy the break.

The fuzzy christmas all cozy together thing is a myth, really its a freaking nightmare and most people moan thier heads off about it.

A roof...a roof

every right to feel how you feel op.

I am lucky that my sister will spend some of the day with me and my dd.

I hope you enjoy it tho, and enjoy the joy the little ones give us!

I will be spending most of the day alone with my foetus. I was very sad about this, and then thought: "Hang on!" I'm upset about being able to spend most of the day relaxing in bed?! Better enjoy it whilst I can!

So....huge lie in. Make some mince pies. Off to the local (where everybody goes before lunch cos they give out free booze on Christmas day) for my One Unit.More sleep.

Making dinner for babyfather in the evening when he comes back from spending time with his other kids.....(mug emoticon).

Not having to sit around having to be the life and soul with various aunties who say nothing for the entire day: Priceless.

AtA-I was wondering what you where doing this year-I thought you'd be spending it with your mum tbh or would have invited you! You're still more than welcome to come but will have quite a few people here so will probably be unsettling for DS?
For what its worth-I envy you just being able to spend the day with DS rather than have all the annoying in-laws round. x

i am just so relieved not to have to spend the day with emotional vampire (feel your pain). for the rest of it i dont bother with christmas dinner which DS wont touch, i make him what he considers a treat and i have permission to have chocolates, wine and treats instead of dinner. made sure santa id bringing good dvds. I think the feeling of what we "should" be doing on the day accounts for a lot of stress, pressure and feelings of misery. If you find it possible to go your own way and see it as a day where you can do more what you want (because its christmas) it can be enjoyable. hope you have a good day and do get quietly bladdered to the extent that you dont pick up on your mums manipulation!

Questioneverything: that is what I usually do, I am usually a count your blessings kinda girl, on a daily basis - honest! Was just feeling a litte bit sad about it last night, and today.

I am going to make the most of it, DS and I are very close and will have a nice day. To be honest it will probably take him most of the day to open presents, play with presents etc. I will think of all of those of you putting up with crazy outlaws and wishing you had a bit of peace and quiet and thanks heavens for small mercies.

My mum will be at my nana's during day, then is coming to mine afterwards as, as maddening as she is I don't want her to feel down and lonely. {mug emotion} Thank god for wine.

NeedCoffee, don't worry! You will have to pop for a coffee and check out my bachelorette pad when you get time. Or meet up for a drink maybe.

Stubbornstains I read you first sentence twice to make sure I had read it right! Definately enjoy it and have a lovely chilled day, imagine your 2010 christmas with a baby - how exciting!

I hope everyone has a lovely day, Happy Christmas everyone.