Background:
We were planning to have my parents here for Christmas and so the girls (12 and 14) would presents from us all on Xmas morning. However my mum has been taken to hospital and so the girls and I will be alone on Xmas day.
Mum and I had already had a pressie dilemma as she had bought the DDs Ipod shuffles (or whatever they're called, bloody things, the circa £45 Apple thingys!). I'd already bought DD1 a similarly priced Phillips thingy which offers more and had intended to buy DD2 one as well. In the end we decided that Mum would give DD2 an ipod, I'd give DD1 the Phillips thingy and a cousin would have the other ipod. I know that DD2 will like the ipod but will be a bit disappointed that DD1s offers more facilities.
On top of this I've bought other gifts for the DC, with DD2 having less grown up things as she has younger tastes. Mum however has bought DD2 more grown up pressies so she feels she isn't being viewed as the baby of the family (and she will love them).
Problem is that now the girls won't have Grandma and Grandpas pressies til Mums better and whilst they are fully sympathetic to her and are just concerned that she gets better (which thankfully she will), I feel so sad for DD2 as her sister will get an MP3 player, which both really, really want, but she won't, plus she won't get the "big girls" stuff that DGPs have bought on the day either.
I'm tempted to tell her on Xmas day that although she hasn't got an MP3 in the pressies I have bought, she will do so when Grandma and Grandad are able to get to us... but by the same token I don't want to spoil the surprise or hurt Mums feelings by letting DD2 know what she's got in advance.
Would I BU to tell DD2 that she too has an MP3 player (but that its not the same as DD1s) or should I play it cool and wait til my parents bring their presents?