gift dilemma, more WWYD than AIBU

[LetThemEatCake]

Have been given a gift that I really don't like and will never use. It was bought from somewhere I love and where there are lots of gorgeous things that I'd rather have. Gift was not cheap. Would it be wrong to exchange it without telling the giver? They are not likely to find out. I would never want to hurt them but nor do I want something that cost so much just languishing on a shelf somewhere ..

what were you given?

as long as they dont find out

is that relevant? Am being deliberately cagey and vague!!!

I'd take it back

Exchange but why can't you tell the giver?

clearly!! but I am being nosey and now INSISTING that you tell (i see you one and raise you a [f])

because giver was so thrilled with it and thought that it was something I'd love ... said so in the giving. So would be gutted if I said otherwise. Is a sensitive and slightly apologetic soul.
Funnily enough there was another part of the gift that giver was iffy about and apologised for but which I love!

Definitely exchange for something you want. I hate waste, something sitting on a shelf unused is very wasteful especially if it was expensive and there are items in that shop you would like. Do it

something of a wearable nature Numberfour .. now stick your beak back in thanks!!!

TELL ME NOW!!!!!!!!

hope you sort your dilemma! i am off to bed.

WHY????

just tell me what you'd do if you were me!!!

Could you perhaps say the fit wasn't right, but that you love the gift?

i would def exchange

are you sure the giver won't find out though? if it's something wearable won't they wonder why you never wear it?

God yes, I have just been given a big box of Molten Brown stuff I don't particularly like but they do have other stuff I adore there so I will go swap it. But don't tell the other person, that'll just embarrass them.

Ah well if they would be gutted that you don't like they are clearly nice people and so would hate it if you were unhappy - hence exchange.

not the sort of item you can do that with.. a one size fits all kind of thing.

I take clothes very seriously and giver asks me for lots of styling/ fashion advice so it's even worse .. feel like it would be really condescending to say that it's not my cup of tea ... like, "nice try, daaaahling" ...

If it is wearable, couldn't you say it doesn't fit you?
Even if you have tried it on, perhaps you could say it too tight on across your shoulders/bum/finger/in the way, etc? Stuff you only find out from wearing for a while?

I really don't think it would be found out; item was of a nature that would not be worn in the circs under which we see one another

damn, I am speaking in riddles tonight, exhausting!!

If they wouldn't see it, I would take it back.

she's given you a sexy negligee hasn't she?

LOL Tipsy!!

if it's a one size fits all then its a hat, gloves or scarf or something like that.
Just exchange it. If you are ever found out then make up a story - there was a tiny hole or a mark so you took it back, they had none the same so you got a credit note and bought x with it.
Just do it!

If it' wearable, the answer is always to be very sad and thrilled at the idea, but most unfortunately, totally unable to keep whatever it is. This works for everything from dresses ('beautiful, but unfortunately I go out in the wrong place, it looks lovely but feels uncomfortably, entirely my fault for tucking into the mince pies') to necklaces ('lovely, but it does seem to hit just the wrong point on me - I do have odd bone structure. Such a shame - I loved it!').

I have been saying these things to my mother since I was old enough to be worth buying clothes for; trust me, the excuses can run and run. And you might as well make the friend feel that she's made a good choice, while still ending up with something you'd love to wear.