Ok, will try and be brief. My elder brother has a gf who is, erm very high maintinence, likes everything her own way etc. They went out for a couple of years a few years back and split when she cheated. It effected my brother badly.
However they got back together 2 years ago, and despite not really liking the girl I have always welcomed her into my home and treated her well as have the rest of the family.
His gf parents have kind of just split up, and her dad has moved out. Because of this they decided to have xmas dinner at her mums house (my brother normally comes here) and then come over to mine in the evening, which is fine and totally understandable. Her mum is quite full on and my brother can only take her in small doses, but agreed to this as he didn't want her having xmas dinner alone.
So he has just rung me and asked me if his gf has mentioned to me that she wanted her mum to come with them when they come over on xmas evening. I said erm no she hasn't and tbh i'd not be very happy about it. I don;t know the woman, have met her once for about 10 minutes. My brother also does not want her to come as he will have spent all day with her. Oh and he has now found out that the mum wouldn't have been on her own on xmas day anyway because gf's dad is going .
I feel awful, but it is xmas day and I just dont want to have to sit exchanging small talk with a stranger.
My brother is in agreement, but I am a bit annoyed with him that he didn't just say no as soon as she mentioned it, because now it will look like it is all me, saying no, when he doesn't want her there either.
AIBU ???