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AIBU?

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to think that father christmas only brings one present?

37 replies

snowedinwithJjandtheBean · 23/12/2009 10:43

All of the inlaws openly say all presents are from santa,

i have been brought up with the main pressie, IE something from my letter to santa, being santa and the rest from whoever they are from!

I really dont agree with presents from grandma, aunts, friends and so on being said they're from santa!

I want the dcs to be grateful to whatever family member thought, took time and spent money!

Dp FINALLY understands and agrees, but weve been warned not to ruin it for mil and her other grandchildren, even though all the other parents feel the same, but AIBU?

What do other familys do?

OP posts:
bogie · 23/12/2009 10:44

We only do 1 big present from santa that he leaves in the middle of the room for the dc's with a big huge tag that says love from Santa.

Everything else is from us and the other family members.

fluffles · 23/12/2009 10:45

growing up all my presents from mum and dad were from 'santa' whereas all the ones from rellies were from whoever they were from.

ItsAllaBitNoisy · 23/12/2009 10:48

YANBU

Santa brings presents, and DD gets a small (randomly picked and wrapped differently) gift from me. Other presents are from who they are from.

I wish there was worldwide accepted RULES. DDs Dad comes out with this "I rang Santa and said.." crap. SHUT UP MAN. NO ONE can contact Santa only the child through a letter imo.

Hopefully · 23/12/2009 10:51

We had stocking from santa and any other presents were from... whoever they were from.

It was a long time before I realised that there were alternatives. I suspect DP and I may have a flaming row conversation about this next year when DS is old enough to appreciate Santa.

MrsBadger · 23/12/2009 10:51

hmm

father christmas only fills stockings in our house

real people buy the big/expensive stuff and they get proper thankyous

ChickensHaveNoTinsel · 23/12/2009 10:54

Everyone does this differently. In our house, the stockings and most of the presents are from Santa, and we only get credit for the boring pj's, books and dull items. However, presents from other people are from other people.

Pineapplechunks · 23/12/2009 10:54

Father Christmas brings small presents and leaves them in your stocking which you've hung up/left out for him on Christmas eve.

Big, wrapped presents go under the tree and are from whoever has bought them.

Hulababy · 23/12/2009 10:56

We don't do stockings. FC brings one special gift of his own, normally the item she has asked him for, not always the most expensive.

Rest come with tags from relevent pepole.

RantApplause · 23/12/2009 10:56

YANBU. Santa brings his gift and fills stocking, everything else tagged with name of relative it's from.

bobblehat · 23/12/2009 10:56

another vote for santa bringing stocking gifts and everything else from whoever. I want a bit of recognition! MIL insists that people buy stuff then send it to santa so he can bring it which is just bizarre.

vodkaandcoke · 23/12/2009 10:57

In our house mum and dad go to work to give santa money for their presents. Everything from family and friends is from them and gets a thank you.

bruffin · 23/12/2009 10:59

Father Christmas only bought stocking in our house.

LastOfTheMulledWine · 23/12/2009 10:59

My ILs say all presents are from Father Christmas. Growing up my parents labelled all presents as from them (no wonder I never believed).

Me? I'm a big, fat biscuit.

jumpyjan · 23/12/2009 11:05

In our house all the presents that have arrived from relatives/friends have gone under the tree and on Christmas morning we will put out one big present each which will be from us. DC's hang up their stockings and all the presents in the stocking are from Father Christmas.

It would be a logistical nightmare to quickly hide all the things that have been arriving in the post and pretend FC bought them all and this makes no sense to me.

MrsMattie · 23/12/2009 11:07

In our house the stocking fillers are from santa and the presents under the tree are from the people who bought them.

ChippingIn · 23/12/2009 11:11

We grew up with Santa bringing us a few presents but Mum & Dad (and all friends/relatives) taking credit for the others... we had a stocking too, but I don't remember who that was from (M&D or Santa). Hats off to the people who give the children all the presents they buy 'from Santa', but I don't think you should let the kids think that the ones from friends/relatives are from Santa and not the person who actually shopped/chose/bought the presents...

DuelingFanjo · 23/12/2009 11:12

As a kid we had a stocking from Father Christmas and all other presents were from whoever they were from.

DuelingFanjo · 23/12/2009 11:13

omg - I just typed the exact same thing as Hopefully without even realising!

TulipsAndTinsel · 23/12/2009 11:17

YANBU, Santy doesn't have space on the sleigh for all that crap

we do one present from Santy and stockings filled by him and then everything else from us or whoever bought it.

I don't understand the logic behind Santy bringing everything, surely far greater potential for fuck ups?

When i was 10/11, around the age i was aware that Santy wasn't real but my parents and i were still keeping up the pretense we had friends of my parents staying for Christmas, they marked all they gifts to me from 'Santa' and it got really confusing and embarrassing as i didn't know which were Santa presents from my parents and which were from them and didn't know who to thank!

MattBellamysMuse · 23/12/2009 11:19

Most of what we buy is from Santa, including stockings. One or two are from mummy and daddy and other presents are from whoever bought them.

jaquelinehyde · 23/12/2009 11:22

Does it really matter?

On all presents that I send to children and adults, I put to XYZ lots of love Santa. I enjoy giving, that's fun to me. I don't feel the need to have everyones undying grattitude.

Some people who buy for my DC's put love from XYZ others put love from Santa. Either way it is fine.

CardyMow · 23/12/2009 11:53

My DC's get their stocking from Santa, and other presents from me, and any from relatives are clear that they're from the relly's. Otherwise how would they be able to send thank you notes? Plus I stretch myself bluddy thin getting them the presents, why shouldn't that be recognised. as an aside, my 11yo DD STILL BELIEVES!!!! (sometimes am glad of asd as it would have ruined it for the DS's with her enormous gob lol).

NoSnowHereBoo · 23/12/2009 12:06

Same here Mrs B. - DCs write to FC asking for 2 or 3 small things (Barbie doll, a DVD/CD etc)for their stockings (plus they get a couple of surprise gifts), but their main present is from us.

This year the 2 older ones are getting a DS Lite each, but with contributions from grandparents, aunts & uncles. If this was a FC present then they'd think no-one else had given them anything!

Plus it's nice for them to have lots to open on Christmas morning in all the excitement and then when it's a bit (a very little bit!) calmer, they can have their big pressie.

It works quite well, although as they're only 6, 5 and 18 months, I guess time will tell...

Bathsheba · 23/12/2009 12:13

Here there are a mixture of presents from Mummy and daddy, and Santa

Generally the things on the letters to Santa come from Santa...

I really don;t like presents from other people being marked as from Santa as they are generally given at different times when I think all presents from Santa should be available first thing on Christmas Day morning (after Santa has dropped them off).

I feel awfully uncomfortable with my MIL taking my children into her garage to "see what Santa has left there for them" as frankly Santa would know not to leave things at her house when he is perfectly capable of amking a delivery to us.

mazzystartled · 23/12/2009 12:18

YANBU at all, I have just had a big rant on another thread about it. I probably need to parp myself.

I think it is very important that presents come from whomever chose and sent them. It's about building relationships. And also about not breeding spoilt grasping children who thinks Santa can wish up whatever. I don't even get the Santa as glorified DHL man thing. In our house he fills stockings with little bits, and that is enough.

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