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To want a present from DP, even though we are skint

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ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 22/12/2009 22:15

My DP is lovely, he has always been very generous with gifts in the past - beyond what we could afford tbh, but he has always wanted me to have the best present. Anyway for the past few years or so, we have been hard up - its been quite a tough few years, we have done away with credit cards and that means his extravagant gift giving has been curtailed. Thankfully.

I was the same really, spent a fortune on stuff for him too. So anway, we have never been one for token presents.

We have two children, one older and left home and a four year old - they have nice presents this year lucky girls.

I have bought DP a token present, a pretty plain old sweatshirt, nowt special but he needs some new clothes. I also bought a scalextrix for him and DD2 - it was on special offer - reduced from £75 - £30, so we probably would have bought it for DD anyway but i saw it and thought he would like it if i gave it as a gift for both of them. So, ive spent about £50 on him.

He has an annoying habit of telling me he hasn't bought anything, even if he has, but this time i know he hasn't as he hasn't had chance to get to the shops. But i want a present, i told him this last year - he bought me a breadmaker (i havent used it . I would have really liked some nice bubble bath, instead of having to use DDs raspberry bath bubbles and head and fecking shoulders shampoo. Or nice hat and scarf.

Because we have been broke ive not bought myself anything pretty much all year, no clothes, even though i shop out of a charity shop anyway so i would really like a treat.

I don't want to have to ask!!!! I know other years we agreed no presents when we were broke, but i haven't said that this year, i dont want him to spend alot - a tenner maybe??

thought that counts and all that

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ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 22/12/2009 22:20

i should add that our relationship has also been very up and down, and we did have a big row this weekend. So i am feeling a bit insecure - a nice SMALL gift would be lovely and make me feel loved.

I've got two days - how can i drop the hint, without pressuring him into buying something when he wasn't intending on it, because i know im being spoilt, but well, if i have to ask - might as well buy it myself

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Portofino · 22/12/2009 22:21

YANBU definitely. Trouble is some men aren't very inventive. "We have no money" equates to " don't spend any!"

Maybe he will surprise you! If not, and you have bought him something, use the moment of his embarrassment to suggest something you might like in the january sales.....

Yummiestmum333 · 22/12/2009 22:22

I would just be direct and say that you really would like a little present this year, that you know you're skint etc but a little treat would be nice. You could even offer him a few suggestions about what he could get if you have something in mind that you'd like.

Men aren't always that good at getting hints, I think often they'd prefer us to be upfront and just say what we want.

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