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to expect a family member to give more than 2 days notice that he is planning to bring his girlfriend with him at Christmas?

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brummiemummie · 22/12/2009 15:41

DH's nephew (20) has been with his girlfriend for nearly a year, we have met her a couple of times. We sort of expected that if he came with his parents to us for Christmas that he might bring her, but when I phoned SIL to invite her family for Xmas, there was no mention of said girlfriend. However, he texted me just now saying "Would it be ok if C came to stay with you at Xmas too?", C being his girlfriend.

I have no objection to her coming, I'm just bloody pissed off that he's only decided to ask 2 days before he is due to arrive, after we have planned meals and where everyone is sleeping etc (there will be 19 people in the house even without including her so we had it all planned like a military operation, lol). I also hadn't actually bought her anything, just got a card, so I will have to just find something in the supermarket when I go to do my last shop (and probably something for MIL to give her as well as she will not have a chance to get to the shops before I go to collect her tomorrow morning).

Argh. Sorry for the rant.

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nickytwotimes · 22/12/2009 15:42

Well, it is annoying, but he is only 20 and probably doesn't realise the hassle.

At least you got SOME notice!

DuelingFanjo · 22/12/2009 15:43

Can she not just hop into bed with him wherever he's sleeping?

alicet · 22/12/2009 15:45

You have 19 people staying with you for christmas?!!?! surely 1 more will make no difference at all!

YANBU I would be p*ssed off too but he probably didn't think it through being only 20 and a bloke and it can all presumably be sorted. And if not then say to him you are very sorry but there isn't space.

Hopefully · 22/12/2009 15:49

19 people?!?!?!

brummiemummie · 22/12/2009 15:54

DuelingFanjo - He was going to sleep on the (v small) camp bed; I barely trust the bloody thing to hold the weight of 1 person, let alone 2

There is also the issue of MIL being a silly old cow and potentially kicking up a fuss if they are allowed to a share a bed but that's her problem, not mine...

Oh, I know he hasn't done it deliberately to piss me off but I was just beginning to think I had everything under control until he texted.

I know I'm mental for having 20 people to stay but tbf 8 of them are me, DH and our kids so it's not like we're not used to having lots of people about.

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mistletoekisses · 22/12/2009 15:55

20 people! Fair play to you! How do even begin to calulate how much food you need for 20 people?????

I take my hat off to you!

brandybutterfly · 22/12/2009 15:58

I have the opposite problem, I want to know if BIL's new GF is going to be at our family do!

YANBU (but you sound like a wonderfully organised person so am sure you'll be fine )

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