to be a bit miffed that people keep telling me about parties they haven't invited me to?

[HeadFairy]

just because I'm due to have dc2 in three days, doesn't mean they can't invite me does it? Surely I can decide if I'm up to it? First my friend tells me she's organised a big 40th party for herself in mid Jan and now my cousin tells me they're having a big housewarming/christmas drinks thing tomorrow evening.

Tell me it's all the hormones... go on... I dare you!!!

YANBU, but in fairness to them, they might be sparing you the awkwardness of declining. Why don't you casually mention that you would love to get dressed up and go out?

I wouldn't feel awkward, I've known my friend for 20 years, and my cousin since... well, he was born. Sniff!

On the flip side, i'm due to have DC2 in two days, and I haven't wanted to go beyond the corner shop for about a month. I have literally no desire to go to a party or social funtion - even those that I would have jumped at if not pregnant. However, people have still been inviting me as normal, which is obviously lovely in intention, but does leave me feeling awkward and guilty when i try to decline politely and graciously.

I definitely suggest you mention that you're up for getting out and about! Not everyone is a miserable cow like me when pregnant

It's a bit late for my cousins party, I'm not sure I can get a babysitter for tomorrow night now... but I won't be pg for my friend's 40th, though I will have a 2 week old. I probably wouldn't have gone, but it would have been nice to have been asked...